How would you feel if this happened to you?
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sweet7face
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 Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 11:32 am Post subject: |
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| tell them that you're feeling upset about it and that you want them to be included at your bridal shower and wedding. |
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Terri
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| Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 11:47 am Post subject: |
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| Its ATTEND.Second, not everyone is as nice and giving as you are.Do not be spiteful like some are saying and not give them gifts or anything. Do what you normally do and realize you are the better person.Who knows, maybe they ARE planning a shower and you just don't know about it! |
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emmy
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| Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 12:31 pm Post subject: |
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| I know what you mean. I've been there for a lot of people and the ones you'd expect to be there get selfish. I think you should focus on the people that do come to your shower. And who helps with your wedding planning, it's a reality check. I've crossed some names off of my list of supposedly good friends. Weddings bring the worse out in some people, they may be jealous of your happiness. |
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amdd
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| Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 1:11 pm Post subject: |
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| this is SO my family! all you can do is cut your losses, enjoy your shower with the people who are decent enough to attend, and make some decisions about how much you're willing to put your neck out in the future. |
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msbettyboop40
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| Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 2:04 pm Post subject: |
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| Been there and done that. After years of attending bridal and baby showers for my family members, when it came to my turn it was announced that there would be NO bridal shower given. The reason? "Since it is the holidays, we just don't have the money." (My wedding was at Christmas time.)I understand the hurt you are going through. I mentioned to my aunt recently something about bridal showers and she didnt even remember that I didnt have one.Only time and support from your soon-to-be-hubby will help. Plan a very dressy date and get each other a present. Enjoy yourselves and be thankful you have each other. |
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greenergrad07
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| Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 3:47 pm Post subject: |
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| I would feel very similarly to how you feel. Unless you say something to your family nothing will change. It is quite unfair of them to expect so much of you and return so little. Try to find a way that is both polite and respectful to express your feelings, perhaps if they knew how much this is bugging you they would take steps towards a resolution. If they know how hurt you are and still can't find a way to compromise, remember their actions in the future. It may be juvenile, but perhaps not bending over backwards for people who won't make you an option is the best way to show them you aren't a doormat and will not be treated as such. |
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