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Author Message Emma Kit Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:50 am    Post subject: Boyfriend's birthday gift... not from him? I've been in this relationship for over a year, and he's been such a great companion. I'm also pretty close to his family. However, my birthday's coming up and previously, his mom had went overseas for a holiday and got me a necklace. It hasn't been given to me yet, I'm worried that he might use the necklace as a gift from "all of them" without giving me anything that's personally from him. Even his mom picked my valentine's day gift! I'm expecting nothing expensive. It's just that I want something personally from him without him depending on his family to give me stuff which I wouldn't mind not getting anyway. My birthday is in 5 days and I don't want to spoil it by being upset. I'm taking it seriously because it reflects his attitude towards me and our relationship. Am I asking for too much? Back to top BasketballGrl Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:54 am    Post subject: No, I understand your dilema. You want him to show that he truely cares by being a real man and buying you a gift on his own. Guys have this weird idea in their heads though that as long as you are getting stuff, it doesn't matter. They aren't girls so they don't know how we feel. If you want him to know how you feel, be honest with him. Hopefully he will get it. Back to top Ashley Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:54 am    Post subject: I don't think you are asking too much.I f he doesnt get you a personal present and that offends you tell him how you feel about it.He might not mean anything by it. Back to top JACKZACK Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:54 am    Post subject: Problems are inevitable, it's that simple. Back to top although71 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:55 am    Post subject: No, you're right,... and it's not about the price of the gift or whatsoever (it might as well be an origami flower), but the least you can expect is something he chose/did by himself Back to top SuP3RmAn67 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:55 am    Post subject: take some time and ask him can he personally buy you something. he is obviously a good boyfriend if you are worried about this and that he wants to make you happy but you need to ask him. Back to top jennifer Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:56 am    Post subject: not at all, talk to him, say u want his choice, its ok if u give me flowers or pick out sth from a dollar store, i want to see u in it, not ur family or friends.I would take him to the mall, and give him a big hints as if what u would like for ur b'days. Back to top Ritesh P Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:56 am    Post subject: i think u are,! its soo hard buying a gift even if its cheap! or expensive! Back to top dimples Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:57 am    Post subject: you dont even know yet get a grip man i bet your hard work let the poor sap make the mistake before you get all upset about it he'll probably get you your hearts desire and then you'll eat your words Back to top little_one23 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:57 am    Post subject: He probably thinks that he's doing something nice by getting his mom to pick something for you, since she's a woman and would be more likely to know what you might like.Also, he probably wants the best for you and might not be able to afford it. Therefore, he'd have to go to his parents in order to be able to afford it. By asking them to come in on the present, he can make sure you have something really nice.Also, if you've been in a relationship this long, then his parents will want to get you something for your birthday. If your boyfriend has asked them for help, then it's awkward for them to buy you another present, because they've already helped to buy your present from him, and it would be very expensive. By going in on this necklace, everyone has contributed to something they think you will enjoy.I don't think you're being ungrateful, but you need to try and see it from their point of view. Back to top personaltiyqueen92 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:57 am    Post subject: you are not asking to much,talk to him bout those kinda stuff.tell i kinda hurts not gettin a personal gift from him.tell him dat u dont need an expensive gift juss a gift from da heart,tell him dat it could be messy,atleast u remember dat he is da creative boiifriend who tried to give a b-ay gift. hope everything works well. Back to top Angel2727 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:58 am    Post subject: ask him to get you condoms for your birthdayy. Back to top tweettreat Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:58 am    Post subject: oh i know how you feel that is what i went though with my ex from time we dated to we divorced either his mom, sister, cousin, or someone else always got my gift and card even sign his name. he was always taken care of like that. if that is how it is now it wont change so either you learn to hide the hurt knowing he didnt care anough to get someone his self or you confront him now. just talk tell him how it makes you feel and show no respect to your relationship at all. i took it thinking it would change it wont. just gets worse with time. Back to top Pájaro libre Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:58 am    Post subject: wait & watch if he gives u da same thgtell him it wld hve been better if he given u sumthg dat is cheap but given by him & he had specially selected, bcos a small thg like dat wld give u more happiness den sumthg grander.Dont b harsh but say it wit luv cos it's possible dat he asks his mum bcos she is a female & she has a much better idea wat gals like, he doesnt want to upset u by givin u sumthg u wldnt lkelet him knw u will really luv if he brought sumthg he has selected for u, as u dont care how stupid it is.......its actually da thght dat counts Back to top abbiedarlin1 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:58 am    Post subject: If he's anything like my fiance, he's just worried he's not going to get you something good enough. My partner used to get his mum to pick out my presents. We've been together 5 years and he's done that from the start. Now he just takes me for a shopping spree on the day of the event instead of buying me something, unless he comes up with a really good idea or i tell him what i want. So, don't be too hard on him. Try hinting towards something you would like. If he doesn't pick up the hint, don't stress, he's male. lol. Don't take it too seriously coz you'll get yourself worked up over nothing. Really is a gift that important to you? My best friends bf doesn't even believe in giving gifts, so she has never gotten a present from him. She learned that it was the way he is and accepted. Maybe you will need to do that too. Or if it is really bothering you, have a word with him about it, just don't make a big deal over it. Hope that helped a bit. Back to top

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