CK loves Chimichangas!!
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 Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 11:46 am Post subject: |
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| Tell him that you love the flowers and appreciate them very much, but ask if instead of buying you flowers twice a week, can he put the money away in a fund for a romantic getaway with you. By doing that, you are not telling him that he is wasting money when you have goals and dreams, but you are telling him that you appreciate his romantic gesture and would like to further that gesture by planning and saving for a romantic getaway. Once the money begins to accumulate, your husband may see for himself how it has all been adding up and may come to realize, without you making him feel bad, that he has indeed been spending quite a bit of money for flowers and gifts. He may be encouraged by seeing how much money is saved for your romantic getaway that he may decide to try saving for that house or paying on some of those expenses you have.You sound like you have a gem of a husband who clearly adores his wife and wants to make her happy. You also sound like someone who cares about him and wants to make him happy as well. It's a bit unusual to see such unselfishness in a marriage and also refreshing. If all else fails, I think if you just sit down and talk to him and tell him in a very loving way that you love and appreciate the flowers and gifts, but would like to cut down a bit so you both can reach your goals, he might surprise you and take it very well. It could be that he is so accustomed to spoiling you that he is afraid to curtail his spending, for fear of offending YOU or hurting your feelings in some way. Men are conditioned to not want to mess things up with their wives because we women can be hard to understand sometimes. Your husband might actually be relieved to know he doesn't HAVE to spend so much money on you all the time. You will not give him that opportunity to find this out however, unless you talk to him. I think that as long as you are considerate of his feelings when you talk to him and don't imply he is being foolish with money, things will turn out okay. |
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