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KB
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 Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:04 pm Post subject: See question "Is my boyfriend being cheap?"? |
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| What if I admitted that I make more because he is unemployed and has no intention of looking for work? He plans to live off of unemployment for a year. He stays up all night playing xbox while I sleep because I have work in the morning. He comes to bed about 30 minutes before my alarm goes off and gets up around noon. I don't want him to pay for all, but about 60% would be nice. Or a little gift now and then or flowers, which he never buys. I mean his is free money. And I work really really hard for mine. |
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Kari
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, he is being very lazy. You need to ask yourself if this is truly the man that you want to keep wasting your time with. You deserve someone who will spoil the hell out of you! Get out before he keeps walking all over you. |
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Darth Cheney
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:14 pm Post subject: |
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| I answered your first question. Now that we have more details, if you're not really into this guy, I would say, "dump him".Do you think he'll ever change? Permanently? Is he studying? Doing anything to improve his future? |
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Old Fashion Guy
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Once again I am of the old fashioned perspective. I think that if you lose your job or quit your job that you should not come home without another job. If you were a company CEO and you lose your job then at least go home being a grocery bagger for people at Kroger’s. As far as the unemployment goes I can't believe any self respecting man could ever take unemployment without some sort of physical problem. Honestly I think he has it pretty well and if all he has to do is sign over 60% of the money he is not even earning then he should be down on the floor bowing and praising you upon arrival home. Have you ever seen Coming to America with Eddie Murphy where they walk around with rose petals. I think he should invest the other 40% in that and walk in front of the woman supporting his lazy ass dropping rose petals for her to walk on. He has written the new definition in the dictionary for a lethargic slug. I am sorry that I am so opinionated but come on how lazy can you get. |
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the countess
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:23 pm Post subject: |
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| dont feel guilty when you write "what if i admitted " becauce YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG so dont feel bad.im sorry to say but it doesnt sound like a good relationship your all give and hes all take and he isnt going to give while you keep giving it all to him . he sounds lazy and irresponsible and workshy and lots of other things.give him one opprotunity to change talk to him tell him whats wrong and what YOU want from your life set a date and if its not improved in the right direction -move on have you asked youself what your doing in this relationship and just what are you getting out of it .think about things carefully and if the only thing you can say is "because i love him " then ask yourself does he really love you if he doesnt want to help you to have a nice life together.i think you already know the answere in your heart and just need a litle support from friends to rebuild your life and move on from this waster |
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Ayo A
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:23 pm Post subject: |
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| I think not being able to pull your financial weight in any relationship is tough and it has a way of creeping into everything else.Besides, this may be a symptom of what's to come. You need to look at things quite objectively and make a hard decision about someone who wants to waste a year of his youth on x-box. Life is half spent beofre we know what it is, right? So why waste 365 days of it?Why won't he work now, and play x-box later Trust me, x-box would still be there when he retire or after a day's hard work. Tell him people would think he is a bum if he just plays game everyday and live on government hand-out. Believe me, even you can't be happy to enjoy your money....Don't let your emotions rule you. Don't FALL in love while he STANDS in love.Hope this helps. |
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Cyn
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 12:50 pm Post subject: |
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| I answered your first question too. With added information I can say:Maybe, your boyfriend does not understand that what you are looking for is some appreciation. Even coming home to a warm meal after a hard day of work will be great. He could even make himself available to bringing lunch to you at work on one of your hectic days. I don't think you are after the money, just some love and appreciation.Its the little things that matter. He opens the fridge and realizes you are out of groceries. He can run to the store and get you the necessities to last you until the weekend. Maybe start a load of laundry in between Xbox games.If he is not willing to see that he needs to add value (not talking about money) to the relationship, then maybe you should think about finding someone that will treat the relationship as a partnership. Not as a yours and mine situation. |
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bookworm125913
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| Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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| Dump him. |
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