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Joy T
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 Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:15 pm Post subject: What is the role of a grand mother? |
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| I work full time. I try to stay active and healthy (exercise class, walking, watch diet). I love my 2 year old granddaughter with all my heart. My daughter only lets me see her when it is convenient for her. I cant see her when her husband is home for dinner. I cant see her at all when the other grandparents come to visit (which is quite often). Tonight I can't see her because it is family night!! I thought I was part of the family!! On the other hand, when they need a babysitter, I am the one they call. If I happen to have a prior engagement, I am treated badly and told I have my priorities in disorder. When ever I have a day off or free time, I would love to take her to the park or lunch or to see the lighting of a Christmas tree in the Plaza where I work. But, if this isnt a time that would help my daughter, she thinks the time spent is for naught! I raised my twin daughters and I believe grandchildren are gifts from God..to be loved and enjoyed by their grand parents. |
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Jennifer D
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| to be grand, and take care of the family. |
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Rasmuschick
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| In my opinion, a role of grandmother is to ensure her daughter and her child are well looked after.... |
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anthony9223
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| To love and cherish your grand children and give them money he he |
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magicgee
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Show your daughter this question and she will know how you feel |
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curmudgeon
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| you need to say all this to your daughter |
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Gary A
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Tell her all this, she sounds spoiled and selfish. |
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saharaaj
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| U have enough signals to keep away , if u persist u may get rough end of the stick Ur daughters do not approve ur method of playing with ur grand chldren . so keep away |
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tool
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:20 pm Post subject: |
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| To keep their mouths shut and help when help is needed. Family time is for immediate family only. This is not you. Sounds like your daughter has it right. You had your chance to raise your children; this is not about you. And yes, they are gifts, but gifts you should enjoy only when asked to, not when you see fit. |
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wfhlembo
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:20 pm Post subject: |
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| You should talk to your daughter. This isn't fair!! You want your granddaughter to have fun with you too - this creates great memories for you and her! this is a precious time in her life - her age is so much fun. You really have to sit and talk to your daughter, so you know what page she's on with this. Good luck! I would want to spend time with a grandma like you if I had the chance!!!! Find out what's going on! Good luck! |
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fiofunk
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Try arranging a set time for you & your grandbaby. Let your daughter know how important she is to you.....and you're doing your best to help, but you want some regular visitation too.Your daughter (and her husband) sound like they're big into routines and schedules....so play their game.....make them schedule you in! Your grandbaby would love the outtings you mentioned.Good Luck(you could also try to schedule events that include your daughter and grandaughter) |
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libbypotpie
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:20 pm Post subject: |
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| talk to your daughter, and tell her it really upsets you that they don't have you over as much as the other grandparents or that you feel used , and only needed as a babysitter.(If thats actually how you feel)Talk to her the same way you worded this question.Hopefully she'll understand.(And if I were in her position, I would want you to tell me that, so don't worry about making her feel bad...in a way she kindof deserves it........)good luck! |
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Deb W
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, as you must know, the law is on the parent's side. The best thing to do (if you haven't already) is plead your case with the parents, in as nice and non-accusatory tone as possible. See if you can't all schedule a time for your visits. Everyone is busy, and drop-ins are not welcome in most homes. I can see both sides here (grandmother age myself). |
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DV
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:21 pm Post subject: |
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| the roll of the grandparents is to spoil the grandkids. I have my own issues with my mom, but at the end of the day I take my kids to see grandma because they love her. The parents need to get a clue & think about the kids. If they dont let the grandkids see you know, the parents will have regrets when its too late(if you know what I mean). |
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Darling
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| Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 2:21 pm Post subject: |
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| That is very unfortunate and I can't really give you any other advice than to let her know how you feel. Tell her everything that you just wrote and see what she says. My mom had to bring my nephew's mom to court because she wouldn't let her see him. My mom was like you and always babysat.. about 4-5 nights a week. If you talk to your daughter and nothing changes, all I can suggest is treasure the time you have with your grand daughter. I hope for the best between you two! |
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