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Mama in March!
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 Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 6:51 pm Post subject: caught in the act--regifting? |
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| what would you do if you got a regift from someone and it was very obvious? a friend gave me something as a gift that was her wedding shower favor from 1.5 years ago and i remembered. i didn't say anything because she didn't have to give me anything (it was a congrats you're expecting gift) but she's been hinting at these baby einstein gifts for her son for the holidays, like i should buy them for him. she also got me something else for my baby, but told me how "expensive" it was before she gave it to me. i really don't feel like exchanging gifts w/ this person at all anymore--her etiquette is well, not great. what do you think? |
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dezynor
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 6:59 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree. Sounds like she's in the friendship for what she can get out of it. No more gift exchanges with her. |
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ksolaris
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 7:00 pm Post subject: |
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| Then don't give her anything. An gift is not an obligation (the very word "gift" should already denote that). Just smile... and do nothing. XDIt MAY piss her off, but if that happens, then she really isn't much of a friend, is she? XD |
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Eric
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 7:01 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd get her something, just not all that "expensive". If she doesn't like it then forget about her. |
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Sparkle
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 7:02 pm Post subject: |
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| I gave a present (picture frame) to my sister-in-law for her birthday. The next year she gave it to me as part of my wedding gift! I am sure she had no idea, but come on if you are going to re-gift do not give it back to the person who got it for you! |
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MommaBear
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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| As you said, it wasn't a gift that was expected or required, so why are you getting bent out of shape over it? I think I would have probably said, "Oh, I remember these from your wedding shower! Thank you -- these were so cute and I lost mine!"Anyone who discusses the price of a gift while they are giving it is already working on an "etiquette deficit", so why expect anything more? If you don't want to exchange gifts, just tell her so -- tell her that you are simplifying your gift list because of the baby. |
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SHSHSH
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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| I can relate. I have a friend who is a really crappy gifter. It wouldn't bother me if she wasn't ALL about her birthday and always complaining about the crappy gifts her Mom gives her. You have two options:1. Ignore the bad behavior and just get her whatever you think is appropriate.2. Tell her that you think you should skip the Holiday gift exchange this year as it is getting out of hand.It might be a little late for the latter. |
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Cheryl M
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| Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 12:45 am Post subject: |
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| Are you positive it is the same item, is it possible she may have gone out and bought the same item?I do think that telling someone that a gift is expensive is very tacky. |
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Dennis
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| Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 4:41 am Post subject: |
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| If she doesn't like the gifts you buy then don't give her any more. This is the kind of consumerist bullcrap that I get sick of about the holidays. |
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