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Lily Flower
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 Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:02 am Post subject: Is it wrong to send a gift to a shower that I'm not invited to? |
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| Background story: I have a friend (A) who is pregnant, another friend (B) of mine was mad at A and said all kinds of mean, hateful, and harsh things about A, her husband and unborn baby. Now B is mad at me. Nobody ever told A about the mean things that B said. Now B is throwing a baby shower for A. I wasn't invited to the baby shower (obviously) because the hostess is B and she doesn't want me there. Which is fine, I mean it is her house and all. From the very begining of A's pregnancy I have been looking forward to giving her a very special gift that I made for her and the baby.The question is: Is it wrong to send a gift to a shower that I'm not invited to?I was actually thinking is would be a pleasant surprise for A to have another friend C (who told me about the shower) bring my gift to the shower. |
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Foxy B
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:06 am Post subject: |
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| I would give her a gift a day or two before the shower(assuming you know when it is) because even if you werent invited you could show that you are the bigger person by not letting it bother you, I know the mother to be would probably be very thankful. Good luck!!! |
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Haley K
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:06 am Post subject: |
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| too confusing and sounds like full of drama..just find some new friends...perhaps one that is pregnant to send the gift to..Thanks! |
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Jami
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:06 am Post subject: |
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| no it is not wrong because your just showing your happyness yo the new born |
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Amber E
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:06 am Post subject: |
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| It is never wrong to wish a new mother congrats on the baby. However, sending a gift to the shower may cause some unintentional bad feelings, and extend this little rift in your friendship. Instead, take a gift to the mother-to-be another day, or mail it to her. It will help her to know that you are thinking of her without causing unpleasant feelings at the shower in front of other people. |
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Kelly s
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:10 am Post subject: |
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| Not much of a hostess in my opinion. If I am getting the story right. It's not her baby shower (unless she decided this), but I would say you can send the gift directly to the pregnant friend. You don't tell someone your going to host a baby shower and not invite everyone. It's times like that that any animosity or grudges should be put aside. Oh well. I would give it to her personally. |
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lil_love1982
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:10 am Post subject: |
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| No, I wouldn't send the gift to the actual shower but to the home of mommy to be. |
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*MoMmYofTwO*
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:10 am Post subject: |
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| why would you even waste your time sending a gift if ur not even invited? forget about it... |
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armywife
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:10 am Post subject: |
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| give the gift to her personally at another time, she will appreciate it more and you will know it's going to her without anyone else's sarcastic remarks. |
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26 weeks pregnant baby bo
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:13 am Post subject: |
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| well no, you can still send the gift because it means alot to you and im sure it will mean alot to A and her baby. it is wrong tho for B to be nasty and say things like that, then turn around and do this to you when you have been there for both. its not fair on you and not right. im sorry to hear you are in such a mess. good luck and i hope it all works out |
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celtic_princess
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:14 am Post subject: |
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| Yes it would be wrong to send it as a shower gift. If you want to give a gift for the baby just get it and take it or send it to the mother to be. |
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racerchick
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:19 am Post subject: |
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| It is fine to congratulate your friend on her baby to be by giving her a gift. Instead of sending the gift to the shower, I would either take the friend out to lunch and give her the gift or have a girl's day and take her to get her nails done or a massage before the baby gets here and give her the gift then. Since you can't go to the baby shower, you can still do something special for your friend. Don't let problems with friend B come in between your relationship with your pregnant friend. Be there for her during the pregnancy, I'm sure she will appreciate the gift and thoughtfulness behind it. |
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vehik
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:21 am Post subject: |
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| I think you should first write a letter to "B" saying that you will send or give a gift to A and thats just how it will be.then give the gift to A.i think its ok if you do. |
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Mrs. Di Scala
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:24 am Post subject: |
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| Go ahead, be a better person. Hopefully she feels like crap. |
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potblackettle
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 4:47 am Post subject: |
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| It's not wrong, but it would probably be better to mail the gift directly to the expectant mother or drop it by her house. If you send it to the party you're just inciting further anger on the part of the friend who's mad at you. You don't want to cause any kind of scene at your friend's baby shower do you? Remember, it's a special day for her and you want it to go as well as possible evn though you're not invited. Besides, if you take it to her yourself you get to see her pleasure at receiving the gift. And believe me, she's going to tell all of your other friends about it so you're not missing out. |
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