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Lily Flower
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 Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:03 am Post subject: Is it wrong to send a gift to a shower that I'm not invited to? |
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| Background story: I have a friend (A) who is pregnant, another friend (B) of mine was mad at A and said all kinds of mean, hateful, and harsh things about A, her husband and unborn baby. Now B is mad at me. Nobody ever told A about the mean things that B said. Now B is throwing a baby shower for A. I wasn't invited to the baby shower (obviously) because the hostess is B and she doesn't want me there. Which is fine, I mean it is her house and all. From the very begining of A's pregnancy I have been looking forward to giving her a very special gift that I made for her and the baby.The question is: Is it wrong to send a gift to a shower that I'm not invited to?I was actually thinking is would be a pleasant surprise to have another friend bring my gift. |
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xbluelikewaterx
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:09 am Post subject: |
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| It's an unfortunate situation. I do not think that you should send the gift to the shower at "B's" house. It would be infringing on her territory, and it sounds like she isn't someone to mess with. No need to cause more drama.However, "A" is still your friend. Of course you can and should give her your present that you have been looking forward to giving her. Make plans to have lunch with her or drop by her house to give her your present. There is no need to get into your business with the other friend. Just tell her you couldn't make it to the shower, but you are so happy for her and wanted to give her this present. She will be happy you thought of her, and the other friend won't be any more upset with you. |
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kj
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:11 am Post subject: |
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| Don't send a gift to the shower. Give a gift to your friend sometime other than the shower. |
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Vicki R
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:20 am Post subject: |
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| I don't understand why B is throwing a baby shower for A after saying all those horrible things about her and her husband; and I don't understand why B is now mad at you and doesn't want you there. Give your gift to A personally after the baby is born. It all sounds like petty girl stuff to me and it's best for you to keep out of it. |
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just me
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:22 am Post subject: |
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| I would not send a gift to (B's) house but I would go to (A's) house at a later or earlier date and give the gift to her myself, if it is possible. If she lives too far away or something I would send it directly to her house, that way she definitely gets the gift and you do not have to deal with friend (B) |
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Janell T
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 1:27 am Post subject: |
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| You know if I was in your shoes I wouldn't let B get away with saying those things and then throwing the shower.I think A deserves to know exactly what kind of a two-faced b***h of a person B is.B is probably only throwing the shower so one day she can throw it back in A's face for when she wants something.Seems to me that she is that kind of person.But you know what else I would do...I would show up at B's place to give that present because if B has any class she won't make a scene with you there and if she says anything just say"Well I just assumed you had forgot to call me about it as you know what good friends A and I are."Then watch her squirm as she wonders whether you're going to say anything to A. |
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berry
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 2:44 am Post subject: |
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| Yes, it's wrong. It makes the host feel guilty for not inviting you. |
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look at my sexy socks
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 4:37 am Post subject: |
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| yeah kind of. its like im going to make you feel bad by spending money i didnt have to and go out of my way just to get you somone i probably dont know or like very well a gift. |
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Rosie_0801
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 5:07 am Post subject: |
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| Don't be silly! It's always appropriate to buy presents for babies! |
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neonesf1
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 7:34 am Post subject: |
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| I would take A to lunch and give her the gift at another time. If B is p,od at you now it would only make the situation worse to appear to be trying to upstage B by sending a gift to a shower that you were obviously left out of. |
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mj
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| Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 9:38 pm Post subject: |
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| In this case, it is wrong to send a gift to the shower. I would suggest that you wait until your friend has the baby and then mail or ups the package to her home with a lovely card expressing that you are so happy for her and the new baby, please accept this handmade( whatever it is)gift..... |
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