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Author Message Mommyof1 Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:17 am    Post subject: Stay-at-home moms/homemakers? Do you feel guilty when Anniversary rolls around and you have to use your husbands money to buy him a gift?My anniversary is coming up in a few months. This will be 2 years. Last year I was working and was able to buy him a nice gift, but this year I became a homemaker and now I have to either buy him NO GIFT or buy him a gift with HIS MONEY!What do you do?I know HIS money is really OUR money, but you know what I mean...Wow "some female" is a real hater!Wish you had a man to take care of you. Maybe. I think so. LOL!Also, I have a JOB it's called "being a MOM"! Back to top some female Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:23 am    Post subject: Get a job. Homemaker is just a euphemism for unemployed female leech and you know it, that's why you feel so guilty and you should. Sure, you do chores, but so do working people! Back to top eishaKC Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:23 am    Post subject: No I don't feel guilty. That money is OURS.I may not work in his/an office but the things I do assist in his success. And a card is just a nice anniversary gift as anything. Maybe you could get 2. Something serious and something funny. Back to top elvlayarvvi Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:24 am    Post subject: hmmm, see if you can sell something in the house you bought so you can buy him something! =)most cities have a local classified site online, try finding your site in yahoo groups =)or, perhaps try a bit of babysitting to make some extra cash =)good luck! =)ignore some female up there... she obviously has nothing better to do today than to pick on people who wish to stay home w/ their children, and believe me, that's a good thing, to stay home w/ them =) Back to top daljack Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:26 am    Post subject: I'm not a stay at home Mom.....but we all of our money is in a joint account.For celebrations you just take some money out and buy a present.Usually though we don't buy each other presents.....we like going on vacations and so that's how we celebrate. Back to top Lindyme Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:28 am    Post subject: i know the feeling but he would not have a dinner ironed clothes hpefully a tidy home a great wife so please do not fill guilty .we own a company that is worth millions i know we or he would not of got there with out me .i am a stay at home mum can afford to have a maid or whatever .do not feel guilty when a man marrries you he knows at 1 time you will probaly be a stay at home mum/wife .buy him a present and make it from the heart .;do not fee lguilty .look at me my husband is nigh nigh and im talking on this .enjoy your life and enjoy your time at home beacause 1 day u may have to go back to worj DONT FEELGUILTY Back to top Tiss Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:29 am    Post subject: I know what you mean, but you really need to start thinking of it as your money too. What you do is valuable, and if your husband had to pay someone to do all that you do, it would be an outrageous amount. Instead of buying each other gifts, how about doing something together - a nice dinner out, a play or musical performance, etc. One thing I'm doing for my husband this Christmas is transferring all his favorite c.d.'s to his ipod. It's not a huge thing, but he never seems to have the time for it. Good luck, and happy anniversary! Back to top Brandee M Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:33 am    Post subject: Yeah, I do sometimes feel guilty about using 'his' money... we moved about a month ago, and I am stay at home wife (in the meantime)... I've bought a few Xmas gifts but things I know he needs or wants. I usually end up being upset concerning finances, but he always reinforces what his is ours.I like to make a special night-- dinner with candles, a romantic movie or bath for two, my hubby likes cards and letters, so that may be an idea for you Back to top pixiechix Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:34 am    Post subject: I kind of know what you mean. I ususally try to create something instead of buying a product. Like, schedule a couples massage or something like that. Yeah, it will still cost, but it will feel less like you are spending "his" money. Back to top karen Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:36 am    Post subject: I have been a homemaker...I prefer the name "domestic goddess"... for 7 years now. I think in the beginning it felt as is the money just belonged to my husband but I got over that. I contribute far more to our family situation than he does by earning a paycheck. I make it possible for my husband to bring home the bacon and still enjoy life. I earn every bit of his paycheck as he does.I view our family life as a business whose purpose is to keep everyone happy and healthy. I take care of the house, the children, the meals, the entertainment, I keep track of the expenses, remember to send flowers to his great aunt ,and generally make him look good. He provides the cash to keep our family running but I do most of the work.Stop feeling guilty, buy him a nice gift, you earned it! Back to top MUSHMAN Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:40 am    Post subject: Why not make him some thing yourself, or cook that special meal and have a romantic candle light dinner. Back to top sweetemtation_123 Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:44 am    Post subject: Being a stay at home mom is one of the most difficult jobs their is. I am right now a stay at home mom, but in his business i can also go and help him with it when he needs extra help. So think of it this way, how much would it be to hire a babysitter? Someone to clean house? Fix breakfast, lunch and dinner? It would cost a small fortune i guarantee. I do not feel guilty for staying home and spending our money, i feel as if i earned every cent, after all being a wife and mother is a tough job sometimes. Any way my man doesn't want me to work, and if he's willing to be the bread winner why not let him take care of me? Best of luck and remember you DO have a job, the best job you could ever have. Back to top Mario Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:47 am    Post subject: I wouldn't worry, my wife is a stay at home mom and she tells me all the time its half hers anyway. (even my music collection, boy I hope we never get divorced). Back to top Peaches Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:48 am    Post subject: I am a stay at home Mom. I have made things for him for anniversaries and birthdays. I made him a scrapbook on him from birth till now. I talked to his Mom and got all the info to write under the pictures. He said it was the best gift. Also He doesn't know it yet. But On our wedding day I started a journal. I wrote about the wedding day and honeymoon and then every anniversary I wrote a page about what we did that day. It's been 15 years now and the journal is getting very filled. I plan on giving it to him on the 20th anniversay. And I would still write in it. So it takes work to give meaningful gifts that don't cost a lot of money. But that's what you could do. Back to top psi2006 Yahoo User Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:49 am    Post subject: Being a homemaker is a job. You should set aside a certain amount of money every pay period as your salary. Use the going rate for day care in your area as a guide. Say it is $150 per week, then you should be at least able to take $75 to use for things like gifts for him at birthday and Anniversary times. I think that everyone who views homemakers as leeches should try it. You feel guilty jobbing your kids out when you work or for not earning outside money when you stay at home. Can't win. Its no wonder this last generation is opting out of parenthood altogether. We'll soon be extinct. Back to top

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