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kia<3
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 Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:51 am Post subject: i broke a promise to my dad how do i get rid of guilt? |
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| i only see my dad once a year.Every year i visit him he always spoils me wit money or a presents. Its hard for me to accept these gifts because i have no reason to be given anything! i haven't seen him in years.anyways i visited him for 2 days and he asked if i was coming back again tomorrow.i told him yes,but i didn't go back because i had to watch my little brothers.i feel so guilty.I don't want him to think that i just show face,get my gifts,leave and never come back until next year. am i a bad daughter for this? i don't even deserve his love.i neve got him anything for fathers day,x-mas or even HIS BIRTHDAY. and he still gives me gifts.i was never there to comfort him when he was sad,i was never there at all.how do i get rid of this guilt?its been haunting me since the begining of december,and i randomly burst out in tears because of this.help please. |
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bex
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:54 am Post subject: |
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| Confess |
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kyle s
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:55 am Post subject: |
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| talk to him about it |
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nye_r
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:55 am Post subject: |
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| Beg him to show you mercy! LOL Next time try harder, ok? |
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JoJo27
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:55 am Post subject: |
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| Tell him why you didn't make it to his house. Call him and spend time talking to him for 15 minutes. Call him on fathers day, Christmas, his birthday, you calling him is probably even more meaningful than a gift.What you just wrote in your question was really sweet, show him that. |
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corsica212
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:56 am Post subject: |
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you shouldn't be ashamed at all!! look at your good intentions honey.the best way to get rid of this guilt is to explain all of this to him, it's all beautiful and i would have liked to hear this if i were him. and then set up another day to spend time with him and be there no matter what. and next time fathers day, his bday, etc rolls around...be there to show you care and get him something too.good luck  |
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Tyler S
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:56 am Post subject: |
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| Is there any way for you to visit your dad more than once or twice a year?Dont be guilty because you did not show up for good causes. If you explain this situation to your dad (which you should) you would completely understand and try to make it up with another day even though it wont be his birthday celebrate that day like it is!there is nothing to be worried about dont worry everything will be fine.and about the presents this might be his way to show you that he cares about you. Even though you already know it, he still might try to prove it to you thinking that if he doesnt give you gifts you wont love him anymore. |
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Sickly in love
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:56 am Post subject: |
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| then, why not do something to make him happy if u broke a promise then go and fix it.... why not go to him.. if you aren't busy then check him out show him ur love... because he is ur father thats why he gives u ol those things including love :)Remember a parent is always a forgiving one |
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sx24
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:58 am Post subject: |
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| if you don't see your dad in person because of circumstances, at the very least you can talk to him on phone and also email him from time to time. Why did you cut off phone and email communication too with your dad if you cannot be with him?Whatever you told here you can tell it on phone to your dad too and i'm sure he will fully understand.You are clearly not communicating with your dad, and thats what the problem is. |
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putoynani
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:58 am Post subject: |
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| guilt is an emotion that everyone feels! It lets us know we are human! Its ok to feel the way you do you dont need help to know that all you have to do is talk to your dad tell him how you feel!! I am sure he would understand the situation and you will both feel better knowing how the other feels! |
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oneblondepilgrim
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:59 am Post subject: |
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| Of course you deserve his love..he is your father.. don't forget the spirit of gift giving.. it is better to give than receive and it probably makes him feel good to give..Just call him and say sorry for not showing up because you had to babysit. Your father probably understands more than you know, and probably has feelings of guilt of his own.. After all, he is not there for you. Maybe send him a letter explaining everything before there is a wedge between you that time will only drive deeper. Honestly does a lot to clear a conscience. Go ahead.. you deserve to feel good. |
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im rpj
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 4:00 am Post subject: |
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| everybody feel the same in similar situations,first tell your father that you have lied to him.tell him youll never do it ever again make him regain faith in u. |
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jero
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 4:00 am Post subject: |
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| you said was. However i take it he is still alive? The best thing to do is to START being there for him. Call regularly, visit him, take him gifts dont wait for fathers day. stop feeling guilty and do something about it. |
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Ken
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 4:04 am Post subject: |
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| Just write a little cleaner version of this and I promise it will all be good. I am a dad, so I understand. A great email or letter would be the best Christmas gift in the world for him. All we want is for our girls to love us - you have to figure how to do it. I think a kind note [like your email] would be wonderful - Good Luck!Merry Christmas, Ken, Christina & MaciHave no clue how I got on this website or why - but if we helped in anyway - it was worth the time. |
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Chocolate_Bunny
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 4:04 am Post subject: |
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| Call him, I know how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me..I hadn't seen my dad in 14 years, no cards,gifts,phone calls. So when i did see him, I had such a good time. I promised to call the next day, it was two years before i worked up the nerve to call..because one day turned into tow.then one week, then two months,six months and so on. I felt so guilty for not returning it, and tomorrow was always an option .I told him how sorry I was, and of my own fault, this happened. He forgave me right away, and reminded me ...just to call sometime. Do it before it's to late... |
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