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ROXY1986
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 Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:27 am Post subject: So I have been dating this guy, and he just lost his father....? |
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| I was unable to attend the viewing and funeral because of work and then I had class. So I had a candy gift basket and card delievered to him. I know he is going through a really hard time right now, but I haven't heard from him in 2 days? He told me thanks and everything for the basket, and told me that he could always use to company to come by anytime. So I texted him this afternoon to see if he would be home and he never responded?? I want to give him his space, but I also want him to know that I am here for him (like I have told him 20 times) but I don't want to be smothering at ALL. So what do ya'll think I should do??Wait for him to call or just back off??No I haven't met his family except for his brother. That's why I didn't make a big deal about going to the funeral and stuff. So do you think he was just telling me to come over to be nice b/c I sent him that basket? Because I don't think I should just stop by without hearing from him first b/c he does live like 20 minutes away. So back off until I hear from him?? |
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Ria
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:31 am Post subject: |
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| Stop by and see if he's home. If not and he has roommates or still living at home, leave a message that you stopped by and see if they can have him give you a call. It'll at least help to show him that he's on your mind. |
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shair00
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:32 am Post subject: |
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| you should have been there for him at the funeral even if it meant taking off work. He's hurt that you wouldnt go to the funeral or the viewing so at this point you need to apologize for not being there for him. Sorry if this isnt what you want to hear. |
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agave_1986
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:32 am Post subject: |
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| If you know well his family, then you have known him long enough to not be smothering him.If you haven't known him long enough to know his family, at this point in his life, you don't mean very much. He doesn't want to kick it. Let him be for a while. |
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donna p
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:34 am Post subject: |
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| being that i just lost my dad a few months ago...and mom a few years ago...this is what i think...there comes a time when we just want to be alone...but stopping by unannounced is okay too...it seems you get bombarded w/ sympathy and after awhile it gets hard to answer the phone or even leave the house...when he is ready he will talk...and if you decide to go...just ask if he is okay...and sit w/ him...company is good...just don't bring it up...let him...best of luck...and my sympathy...it is VERY HARD |
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afbaseballbeau
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:34 am Post subject: |
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| I'm really sorry to hear that. That is very life changing, and he may need a lot of space.. but stick it out and when he needs you he will let you know. Continue to assure him you are always there for him and support him whenever he asks.He should gradually start to make contact with you as time goes by so be patient.. and keep texting/calling him daily (just don't do it more than 2xs).. always stay positive and just kinda brighten up his day.. best wishes. |
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jewllslovee
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:52 am Post subject: |
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| This time for him is very hard, my man lost his dad about 1year ago he found him.So he needed time to him self but i was there when he needed me i would tex pics to tell him i loved him and thinking of him its ok to visit or talk to him just try not to be pushy with anything, if he does not tex u back he may just be asleep or thinking, but just keep an eye on him they get down a lot thats normal its realy hard loseing anyone just show him you care just be your loveing and careing self.keep in contact with him every day even if you cant see him tex him or call him,you could ask him when would he like you to come over. |
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kingcobra1289
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:33 am Post subject: |
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| If he drinks then he is probaly doing it alone and being miserable so i say go to him and drink with him to make him feel a tad bit happier and not alone in the world |
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