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jupyter_flew
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 Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:42 pm Post subject: 18 year who is pregnant and unappreciative? |
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My sister is 18 and pregnant with her first child (she got pregnant at 17). She checks her registries online, then complains that people aren't buying a lot from them. (Baby shower is Feb 2). She has registered for things that are very expensive. When it's suggested that perhaps she would receive more if she would register for things in a lesser price scale, she gets hostile. I showed her a picture of a baby walker. She said she didn't want them because she doesn't like walkers. (How she has experience w/ walkers, I'll never know). At any rate, I explained it wasn't for her, it was for the baby, and the baby would love it. She got upset and said it wasn't my kid. That's true, but wouldn't you be grateful for whatever you got if you're young, uneducated, live at home, no husband, no money, etc.? How should I handle this? Return her gifts I've bought (the whole crib set!)? She's also upset with our father b/c he refuses to buy a $250 stroller/carseat combo.LOL - I'm much older than her. I'm 28, educated, married, own my home, self-sufficient, gainful employment, all that jazz.  |
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Mandy
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:47 pm Post subject: |
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| She might be pregnant, but she's still a teenager. Sometimes it take a while to change the mememe attitude.Don't get a walker though. They're dangerous and don't encourage anything.If you're set on it, try an exersaucer. |
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yz1
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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| She is a kid herself how can you expects blood from a stone you need to tough love her and let her have some taste of reality...still be there when she needs you but this is her thing, you are the auntie... |
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still waiting
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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| That's a shame. But that's what happens when you aren't taught responsibility, or you're just "one of those" kinds of people. Since she's 18, maybe she should try to raise her child on her own, with no help from her parents, and see how unappreciate she is then!If you take back your present, it will just cause a problem with your sister. But I would definitely have a talk with her. Her behavior is ridiculous. |
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Hulagirl96734
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:49 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't know if you are younger or older then she is But you have a great head on your shoulders and I'm proud of you for your way of thinking, your sister is being selfish Yes of course we all want the best for our babies but I always appreciated any thing people gave me with my four children.she should be lucky Grandpa is involved trying to get things for the baby, there is not much you can do But hope that she will change in time and learn that things are not so easy to get. and to appreciate anything offered |
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Sheri C.
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject: |
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| all i have to say is THANK GOD she still lives at home so your mom can raise this child. she is still a child herself and will be doing a lot of growing up in the next few months, lol wait until she goes into labor she'll love that one |
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Cookie On My Mind
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Just remember that what you have purchased ISN'T for her - it's for the baby, your future niece or nephew. So please don't punish the baby for the mom's negative behavior/bad attitude. I wouldn't bother saying anything to your sister, it'll be a waste of time. It's hard to get through to people like that, you know? Especially when they are young and pregnant and probably stressed out as it is. Just be there for her and the baby, that's really all you can do. Good luck to you both. |
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Terra V
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 7:13 pm Post subject: |
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| Wow - I say give the crib set for the baby as he/she will need it but I'd be sure not to buy anything else. Tell her if she wants to be soo picky she should get a job and buy things herself..... Hormones or not, teenager or not - selfish is selfish - period.... She has a rude awakening coming....... |
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Belle
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 7:20 pm Post subject: |
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| This is a child having a child and she is acting just like one. She's using her baby to get the "good gifts" because she sees them as her gifts. I would call off the shower and simply ask people to drop the gifts off to you if they want to give something. Take away all of the attention and take her selfish butt out of the spotlight she thinks she's in and maybe that will wake her up a little. The shower is called a BABY shower..NOT a mother shower. It's all about the baby and always will be. I hate to think of the examples this young mother is going to set for her child.I wish I could see her face when that first labor pain hits..I'm sure it will be priceless. |
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sad mommy
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| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 12:01 am Post subject: |
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| just let her keep the crib set but dont buy anything else...where is the father of the baby? is he going to do anything? |
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Cammie
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| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 4:55 pm Post subject: |
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| This really isn't a problem for you.She is the one in this situation and she has no right to turn it onto you.A stroller is going to be the least of her problems.Perhaps buy her a book on pregnancy and child care.I wish you both the best.You may need to stay your distance. |
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