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Lisa
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 Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:37 am Post subject: Should I ask for my gift? |
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| So I had my baby shower almost two weeks ago and my supervisor sent me a text saying " she cannot make it but she will mail me my gift". She sits right accross from me at work.I noticed someone purchase a mattress off my registry and I have asked all of my friends if they purchased it and they said they did not.I'm due March 8, 08 but I'm starting to set up the baby's nursery.I have not received the mattress and babies r us cannot check the status of the order without the order number.Should I ask her if she purchased the mattress and for the order number? How do I ask her if she says yes she bought it?She loves recogntion also, so if she bought it and i did not say thank you because of the fact I did not receive it she will be offended. She does not know that I have not received it. I dont want her to think I received it and I did not say thanks. |
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officer uggh
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:40 am Post subject: |
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| No don't ask. That's rude in any situation. You're never entitled to a gift. |
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originalkippyj
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:41 am Post subject: |
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| No, ask her for her advice. Tell her that someone bought the mattress, but you don't know who and you're starting to set up the nursery. That'll give her a chance to either say she bought it, or be flattered that you asked her advice. Either way, you win. Just act really surprised and excited if she says she bought it, then mention that it hasn't arrived and you'd like to check the status with the store to make sure it wasn't lost in shipping. |
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Patricia S
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:43 am Post subject: |
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| Don't rely on gifts to complete the nursery. Gifts are given not asked for.Buy the darned mattress yourself and if you get a duplicate just exchange it for something else. |
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Queenie
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:44 am Post subject: |
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| I would just be overheard (on purpose) at work talking about your situation! Like I'd say to another co-worker within ear shot of your supervisor about the fact that someone seems to have purchased one, although you haven't recieved it yet and that since you haven't got it yet, you are going to have to go get one yourself.Therefore, if she got it for you it should "appear" within the next day or so. If she is a stiff and didn't get you anything you'll also know that real soon too! |
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Tsuria
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:44 am Post subject: |
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| Proceed with your nursery plans as if no one purchased the mattress (it could be a mistake made by the store's registry!) and should a spare mattress show up, take it for an exchange to the store for something you will need later (diapers!!!).Best of luck with your plans and your little one! |
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more_conqueror
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:46 am Post subject: |
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| At the time she said that she would mail it to you, she may have had good intentions to get a gift, but didn't. Who knows??? Personally, I would not ask for something that you don't know 100% happened. You still have over a month. Don't stress, it'll all work out. Concentrate on your blessing inside you, all the rest is just details. Congratulations! |
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Yo Gabba!
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:47 am Post subject: |
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| i don't think she bought you the mattress as it would cost a lot to mail. She could just drop it off at your house. Just bring it up casually that someone bought you a mattress but it's driving you crazy becuase you haven't received it and don't know who bought it for you. If she bought it for you, she will most likely bring it up and say... yeah that was me ... But don't ask her straight out, that would rude and distasteful. |
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startwinkle05
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:56 am Post subject: |
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| Don't ask for her gift. Ask what she would do in your situation!Patricia S and Tsuria both have good points!! Also the lady who said to concentrate on your blessing and the rest is just details....that's excellent!! |
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Anathema
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:57 am Post subject: |
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| It may be taken as rude to ask about a gift...since you're not due for another month I might suggest waiting two weeks before getting concerned about the order. If you still haven't received it then you might bring up the situation in casual conversation, not come directly out and ask "Hey did you buy that mattress?"...maybe bring up that you noticed items were ordered but you haven't received them, and you are concerned about who may have ordered them, and if something may have gone wrong with the order...then maybe ask if she may have ordered "something". It would be better to make it sound like you are more concerned about a friends spent money, than asking directly "Where's my gift?"...hopefully this helps a little! |
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Praxis
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:05 am Post subject: |
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| No that will look rude and greedy. Giving gifts is a voluntary act and should not be expected. Also, how sure are you that it was her? Don't ask, just wait. In the meantime, if you don't already have a mattress, go buy one. Congratulations. |
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Matt B
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:09 am Post subject: |
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| I would just explain to her that you're trying to figure out what you need to purchase for yourself, and you haven't yet received her gift. She should understand. |
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Robin G
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:16 am Post subject: |
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| No! Absolutely NOT! If she did buy it, she'll think you are ungrateful and will no longer be happy about giving it to you. If she didn't buy it, you will embarrass her. |
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Melissa
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:24 am Post subject: |
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| I think it would be tacky to ask. What I would do is mention in casual conversation that you are gonig to go pick up a matress for the baby soon because you are due soon and want to get the baby room ready. See how she responds. She might say "oh that reminds me, i have to bring you your gift!" or something. It's most likely that she just forgot to bring it. If she mentions she bought it, act surprised and be thankful. If she says/does nothing, assume she's not giving you anything. |
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verykristin
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:41 am Post subject: |
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| Why don't you mention the text, and just say, "In case you mailed me something that same day, I just wanted to let you know it never made it." That way, you aren't asking for your gift, but rather looking out for her interests. Chances are, she never mailed it. |
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