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EzzyLa
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 5:44 pm Post subject: Have you attended a baby shower where the mother registered for gifts for older children?

I was invited to a baby shower a family friend. The mother to be has older children from a previous relationship. She registered for many items that were obviously for the other children. The one that stood out was a car seat and booster seats for the other children. She also had clothing items for children over one year of age. Is it now acceptable to ask for gifts for the other children?The mother to be has already stated that she needs the seats for the older children because she can't afford to buy them. She also said she does not want her older children to feel left out and jealous of all the gifts the new baby will be receiving.

kaileigh052502
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 5:48 pm Post subject:

No I think its greedy and sort of rude. The mother to be should be embarrassed

blondie
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 5:49 pm Post subject:

they dont have to be for the older children, she could just be preparing for the future. not everything you get at a shower needs to be for a newborn cuz those babies grow to be toddlers very quickly and you still need stuff for them!

MamaBear
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 5:54 pm Post subject:

I agree with blondie. She could just not want to have to buy more carseats again. They can be pricey, so why not get it now. I could be wrong of course.Okay, just read it again and in that case, thats wrong. She shouldn't even be asking for that. Those older kids must be spoiled rotten to need gifts just because someone else is getting them. When I had my youngest all my oldest got was a baby doll...from me not someone else...and because I wanted her to have a baby to "take care of" when I was taking care of her new sister. She was only 19 months at the time.

autumlovr
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject:

Wow. This is a faux paux royale!! How rude. I guess some people just think they can behave any old way at all and it's all just fine but that's not good manners at all and I would be highly offended by it. It's called a Baby Shower for a reason . . to shower the mother to be with new gifts in honor of the new pending arrival, otherwise it would be called "Christmas".I wouldn't care where she registered, I'd ignore her obvious ignorance and blissfully purchase a baby gift of reasonable expense. I also would not attend any further showers for this person. Perhaps someone closer to her can explain to her that this is NOT a proper thing to do for a baby shower.

nanners454
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:00 pm Post subject:

Wow, unless it was a family member, I wouldn't attend the shower.

kristennikco
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:01 pm Post subject:

I think she is in the wrong for asking but I can see her mind frame. She probably already has almost everything she needs for her baby so she figured why not try to get other things she needs for her older kids instead because she cant afford them.It is rude but I dont think it's anything worth making a big deal over. Just because someone registers for gifts doesnt make you obligated to purchase them.

ToSunnyMexico
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:03 pm Post subject:

I think a baby shower is to celebrate new life and to help the mother to be so she doesn't have to get a lot of things at once. It's kind of a birthday party I think. I don't think you should register for gifts for older children. They older ones already had their shower time and being jealous of one's younger siblings should be discouraged. Is she going to buy gift for all of them on each other's birthdays? If someone wants to get something for the older children it should be something extra. Not something on the list. Registering for a booster seat early is acceptable, however this is for the new baby. I'd even accept using it for the older children and reusing it for the baby, but registering for other kids isn't the point of a baby shower. It just isn't the custom.

emmy
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject:

That is so wrong. What is up with greedy a** people. If she can't afford tthings for her older children, why in the world is she having another kid???

spooky1
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:12 pm Post subject:

UK answer - cheek of the devil!!

TotalRecipeHound
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:35 pm Post subject:

I don't attend nor buy gifts for a 2nd shower. I would make exceptions for someone who lost their home due to fire, Katrina or tornado. If the mom never had a shower, then it is reasonable, but no, it is a BABY SHOWER not an ALL THE KIDS shower. Really tacky on the part of the mother, IMHO.

amberlicious81
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 7:40 pm Post subject:

well that depends. i guess if shes using the baby seat for the baby tehen she would need a bigger car seatt for the older one, and that would be alright in my opinion. as for the clothing, no. she could always go shop at the goodwill

Queen Queso
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 9:19 pm Post subject:

No, it's definately NOT okay to register for gifts for your older children on a baby shower registry.If I was close to the woman, or she was a relative and my family expected me to be there, I would still go and purchase a gift, but my gift would be one of the items that is definately for the BABY, not for her other kids.I went to a baby shower a few weeks ago where the lady registered for some things that I thought were nuts. This is their first baby, so I know it's not a situation like yours, but she registered for Shrek the Third, Ice Age: 2, lots of toys that won't be used for at LEAST 6 months (push toys, a huge dump truck full of blocks that look like giant lego peices), and a booster seat rated for a child at least 30 lbs. Needless to say, she didn't receive those items.

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