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Ami B
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 Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:18 am Post subject: Should we have a Baby Shower or Arrival Party for our second baby? |
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Ok, so I am pregnant with my second baby and I am torn. My sister and a few friends want throw me a baby shower and my MIL says it is inappropriate. I do not want a typical baby shower. NO Games! Ick, been to too many baby showers where you have to guess how fat mommy is lol. I do not expect gifts and would make sure my sister put that on the invite. I would not have decorations and all that stuff. Just some close friends at a relaxing spot to get together. We are due this summer and I am also thinking about maybe having a get together after the baby is born instead of a "shower". Have all of our closed friends come and BBQ, meet the new baby and all. Again presents are not expected. We can purchase any supplies we might need and still have the big stuff as my daughter just turned 3. What does everyone think?My husband just said that he likes the idea of a BBQ before the baby is born so we can have it out the house and I wont be all stressed about setup/cleanup and we can invite our friends and family. So not a baby shower, more a baby BBQ  ). How does that sound? |
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Chriss32
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:22 am Post subject: |
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| I think considering it is your second child that an arrival party would be more appropriate. |
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Katielin D
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| yes it like a gift to the baby saying ''welcome to the world'' |
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Liz
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| There is nothing inappropriate about a baby shower for a second child. Is this baby any less special than your first? I don't think so. As for the games discuss it with whoever throws the shower maybe tell them you'd just like a simple luncheon. |
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mommy2mckayla4
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| There is nothing wrong with having more than one baby shower. MANY people have one for every new baby. Your MIL is old scholl. If she doesnt think its right then she doesnt have to be there. But I think what you said about the BBQ is a great idea. Good luck in whatever you choose. Congrats! |
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wahoo10001
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| I thought showers were for first babies. Anything more seems tacky to me. |
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momof4
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:26 am Post subject: |
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| baby showers r usually for first baby only. when i got preg for #4 my sister and sisters in law said they wanted to throw me one because my youngest was 5 i said go for it but it didnt happen. i was dissapointed. ny way i like your "meet baby" idea. |
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Amatullah H
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:26 am Post subject: |
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| wellll, you should have an arrival party because this is you second baby shower ok the reasen is because its ur second so dont make so boring ok |
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Me
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:26 am Post subject: |
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| Ofcourse you can have one. I think you should celebrate the arrival of any child. Maybe have your friends/sister let the guests know that gifts are not expected so people dont scoff. It would be great to have every one get to together to celebrate. Your BBQ idea is great as well. Just be happy and enjoy yourself. When we spend too much time worrying about what people think, we end up miserable. Who's she to say you shouldnt celebrate your 2nd childs arrival?? Have fun and good luck! |
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ROsie
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:28 am Post subject: |
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| I think that your plan sounds perfect.You might still get some gifts for the baby. I would only suggest that you have a couple of small gifts for your 3 year old in case she gets jealous or maybe just let her open the baby gifts(if you get some).A BBQ is fun and relaxing and people can dress casually.Don't forget your camera!Congrats! |
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unusualkiss
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:37 am Post subject: |
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| I would do an arrival party. Then you won't have to worry about a bunch of people showing up at different times wanting to see the baby. This also keeps your daughter from getting jealous of all the gifts the new baby gets .If you do a baby shower, if people bring gifts, donate them to your local women's shelter. They are always in need of newborn baby items. |
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Kaitlyn's_Mommy
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:39 am Post subject: |
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| I like your idea of the arrival party for the second baby without the gifts. A second baby shower seems tacky to me, kinda like a second wedding shower! You should already have much of what you need from the first baby, other than maybe needing a few new clothes, bottles & diapers. Just because you don't have a shower for the second baby doesn't mean they are any less special than the first....it just means the parent is being more practical. Most likely you will get some gifts anyway, even if you tell people no gifts. |
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abear1983
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:10 am Post subject: |
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| you can call it a baby sprinkle instead of a shower if you want. there are no rules for a sprinkle so it might work for you :0)congrats and good luck! |
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Piper32
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:16 am Post subject: |
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| I don't know anyone who had a shower for a second baby, I think it is pretty tacky. Even if you put not to bring gifts on the invitation, people are still going to feel obligated to bring a gift. |
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Mommy2be32308
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| Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 1:38 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't think either one is tacky.Sounds like a great idea. |
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