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keepyourhandsoffmycat
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 Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:18 pm Post subject: Should I invite her? |
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| I need advice on whether I should invite a particular girl to my wedding. She is my father's partner's daughter but I am not close to her at all. See, I invited her to my engagement/ b'day party in June last year (out of politeness) and she came late, didn't stay long and (don't hate me for saying this) no gift. Don't get me wrong, I really don't care about that at all but I was always told it is polite to take a small gift when someone invites you to a special event and pays for you. To me it was impolite but I really didn't care. I said thankyou for coming anyway and nice to see you. Now she is having a big b'day party and no invite which I don't care about either but now I wonder if I should ask her as I don't know whether it is worth it when I have to pay a fair bit for her to come? I just don't want to be the person that invites everyone all the time and gets no gratitude or return of gesture in return.Would it be fair or unfair not to invite her or is this petty? |
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ms pokeylope
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:22 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't invite her at all. |
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OLLa_XoX
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:23 pm Post subject: |
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| yes...invite her.go on..be nice wouldnt hurt. |
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chocolatecupcake
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't invite her if she's not close to you. Bt, just to be sure, ask ur father to see if his partner would be bothered if you didn't invite his/her daughter to ur wedding. It's worth it to invite her, just to not have that kind of tension later on. |
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Kristi
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:24 pm Post subject: |
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| i dont think you should invite her, if she didnt show any interest in your shower, she will probably be the same way at your wedding, you should be worrying about her. you getting married! dont let her ruin that or stress you out. |
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Jackie M
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Does it matter to your dad if she comes? If not, I wouldn't invite her because it sounds like you don't really want her there. I didn't invite one of my aunts to my wedding, because she always makes nasty comments at other ppl's events. So don't invite anyone you have doubts about. |
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sips
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:25 pm Post subject: |
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| normally tradition goes that you anyone you invite to the engagement party is expected to be invited to the wedding. i would just invite her and hope she decides not to attend. im sure you father would appreciate your politeness and thats whats important |
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Jesse
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Dont invite her |
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hamrrfan
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Ask your father. The final decision is yours, but it could be awkward for him if his partner's daughter is not invited. It may turn out to be no problem at all if she is not invited. |
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BlueBoy39
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't invite her. She obviously has no interest and it would indeed be a waste of money. you invited her to something and what she did then was disrespectful, and was even more disrespectful when she didn't invite you to her party regardless if you wanted to go or not. Definitely do not invite her. |
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Bride 9-20-08
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| I would not invite her. My fiancees gma's partner has like 3 kids and they are not coming to ours. She has been in my fiancees life since he was 3 and his mom was 21 and he is now 20 and his mom has talked to them very little and what not but we still are not inviting them. If you are still really stumped ask your father what he thinks you should do but also if you are inviting any of your fathers partners family you kinda need to invite her weither or not she is going to come. She might just feel like she doesnt know how to talk to you in that situation. |
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Laura
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| I would say yes since you did already invite her to your engagement party. I say yes only because it's your father's partners daughter. It's probably the right thing to do. |
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yyyyyy
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:30 pm Post subject: |
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| pettyif you want her to share your day then invite her; you said the gift didn't matter, but you mentioned it several times |
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ProNinja
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:30 pm Post subject: |
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| you should invite her and just give a little, nice, hint that you would like some grattitude, and if she doesn't, don't invite her to anything else. |
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Poovin
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| Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 11:36 pm Post subject: |
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| forgiveness is the good habit so forgive her.I will ask Invite her. |
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