What can I do when it seems my husband is not intrested in me anymore?
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ksgirl
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 Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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| You need to have a talk with him and make him aware of what your needs are! |
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AlenaT
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:01 pm Post subject: |
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there'sfew things you can try....get sexy, get a haircut and sexy lingerie...try to spice things up...buy a porn and watch it with him...try whatever used to turn on your guy..and if this won't work then talk to him about your concern and then you'll see if there's anything you can do to save your marriage  |
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lovanak
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:01 pm Post subject: |
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| 1 have you ever talked about it with him?2 does he have job problems or economical problems?3 does he still love you?4 is he with someone else?5 hasnt he fallen in love with another person?6 have you tried ignoring him? what was his reaction?try to give him some time and think about all these possibilities. |
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eillem123
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Have you told him how you feel? Do you allow him to take you for granted? That's what it sounds like. Don't 'suffer in silence' - maybe show him this question! If ya'll basically get along, maybe you should start having "date nights" and you pick up the reins and start doing some romantic things together. And, when he thinks he's going to just roll over and go to sleep, just say "Hey honey, I think you forgot something!" Or, better yet, insist that you get off first, and then he can get his! |
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gary c
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Three years is pretty fast to "lose interest" but I don't all the people involved or all the situation so I will take your word for it. First rule out any medical problems. If he is maybe having male "difficulty" so to speak, he may be self conscious. Or there amy be some other medical problem or maybe some medication he must take that causes him to lose interest. You know about that, I don't.Aside from that, you obviously want his attention, that is good. And normal. So think about how things were when you were dating or engaged or first married. What can you do?I am about the luckiest man in the world, but my wife is always communicating with me. We send each other emails every day. I send her taxt messages and she send me some. I leave her love notes and she calls me even before I get to work and says "I love you".Send him emails at work. Pretend you are dating this man all over. Don't nagor say about problems. Start out with I am thinking of you and have a good day", really that is all it has to say and it will take you 10 seconds to do it.Make an effort to look good for him. MY wife LOVES to look and feel beautiful. I tell her she is like 10 times or more a day. When I come home, her hair and clothes and shoes and face look wonderful! I cannot wait to get home! She always dresses very,hmmm. I won't say "sexy", but it is sexy. Very attractive in clothes that make her look good, not necessarily revealing, but maybe a little. She does not wear panty hose or granny panties. Somehow I know that all underneath she looks and feels very sexy, very desireable.Then you might try flirting with him in email, then make it a little hotter. Get out the camera, set the self timer and have fun! Make a couple dozen photos (or 100) and send them to him one or two at a time. Make some sweet and beautiful and some overtly sexual, why not? I can usually tell what is in store for me by the photo I get in email! )))I know you aren't being satisfied in bed, OK, and you deserve that, but he isn't here asking, you are. So, for now, YOU need to try and satisfy him, thrill him, surprise him. Overwhelm him, I do not think he will push you away. You say you initiate. I do not know how. My wife will "initiate" by waking me with oral sex and DAMN it beats the alarm clock! I have not pushed her away, EVER. If this sounds like I am on his side, not really. If it sounds like I am suggesting a lot of work for you, I am. But I think he will come around and realize he has a wonderful, vibrant, interesting wife. And his attention will extend far beyond the bedroom and the sex. I hope so.If you tried all this and he does not respond, check first for a pulse on the side of his neck. If he is, indeed, alive, call an ambulance and take him to a counselor.PS My wife got about 20 valentines gifts from me and I buy her gifts all the time.PPS If he doesn't satisfy you, and thinks he is done and just hit the jackpot, slide the vibrator out from under the mattress and tell him you are gonna finish the job yourself! He will want to help! By the way, it is also a good way to "initiate" |
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bopdoobie
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:58 pm Post subject: |
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| If your not getting yours, then he shouldn't be getting his. stop settling for less and demand more. Speak up, but don't nag. Men hate that. start creating your own romantic moments, maybe he will take a hint. Buy yourself gifts. Stop sitting around mopping take control of your own enjoyment. |
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Init to learn
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| Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Sorry to hear that. The last thing you want to do is beat yourself up about this. I suggest you sit him down and tell him how his lack of affection and intimacy is affecting you and ask him if he is dealing with issues at work etc.Unfortunately, you should also observe his non sexual behavior for any changes. These are normally indicators that something is going on.Good luck and hope things work out. |
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