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hlnlange
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:26 am Post subject: My husband never does anything special for me on a special day.?

He never does anything on our aniversary, mothersday or valentines. I always go out and buy him the greatest gift for his birthday and try to make his day very special. I arrange his birthday party and everything. My birthday are always such a dissapointment to me. Do you think it's because he just doesn't care?

Tim M
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:31 am Post subject:

sounds like it to me.

Shane B
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:31 am Post subject:

If you want more, maybe you married the wrong guy? I dont see someone as not caring if hes still with you, but maybe more of lack of interest? Some relationships just go that way.

justawife
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:33 am Post subject:

guys aren't great at birthdays holidays and stuff like that i wound't ho;d it against him next time just tell him what you are planning for the next event

Krandazzo Violation Queen
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:39 am Post subject:

tell him how you feel about it

Michelle C
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:43 am Post subject:

This is very simple. There are two types of men. Those that do special things on special days and those that do not. You knew what type of man you were dating before you married him, so why are you so suprised that he is still not doing anything for you now. Either accept it or don't accept it. My only advice is that if you really truly want something special for these special dates. TELL him point blank what you want him to do. If he refuses to do it, then you have a very SELFISH man and I'm sorry. But most men that do nothing, do nothing because they have no clue what to do.

BOYD H
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:43 am Post subject:

I think he cares but does not realize just how much this means to you. Next time plan your own birthday and include him. Don't wait to see if he remembers because he probably won't. Include him in your plans and I think your birthday will improve. He was probably raised differently.

sunshine *
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:44 am Post subject:

Perhaps its not because he doesnt care but more so that he does not realise that it means so much to you. Have you tried dropping hints closer to the day? Maybe try this method and see if he recognises what you are doing or if you feel that strongly about it, reverse the situation on him and dont do anything for him on his special day. If he mentions it, you then have the chance to tell him how your feeling about your situtation, instead of it being just out of the blue.Hope i helped.

High Roller
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:45 am Post subject:

Some men are just not responsive to these commercial days. It's not that he doesn't care about you; it's that he doesn't think about such things. If you want a birthday party, arrange one for yourself. If you want a Mother's Day gift, grab the credit card and get what you want. Use the card to send yourself a dozen roses on Valentine's Day, as well (with the understanding that your man still loves you, even though he's not into these things).

gypsy g
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:48 am Post subject:

My guy doesn't do anything for me either. He thinks its all a gimmick to make us spend $$. His disdain for consumerism has him missing the whole point. Ok...don't spend any money. That is fine with me. But pick a bouquet of flowers from the yard, fix me breakfast or anything out of the ordinary just to tell me that you recognize me and respect me on those special days. We have a one year old, how hard would it be for him to take some construction paper, paint her hand, and make a hand print and write happy mother's day? This will be the last year that I do anything for any of his days. And honestly I don't go out and buy gifts either, but I do have our child make a card. And I'll cook him something special. But after this year, no more...he can't show me respect, I won't show him any.

~Baby D~
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 7:48 am Post subject:

I don't think its b/c he doesn't care.I do think some men just don't get how important those dates are to us. Example: my husband loves to do things for Valentines day, I could care less.I love to do things for fathers day, he could care less. More to the point, last year for mothers day he did NOTHING...didn't even call HIS mom. SO, I told him he is a super jerk b/c that is important to all mom's & he need not expect a thing for Fathers Day. Needless to say he knows now to at least get a card & say Happy Mothers Day.

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