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Ashley
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Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:17 am Post subject: ok what do you do about your husband and his family still in contact with his ex's??

this is not a jealousy think whatsoever, more of a disrespect and inapporpriate. so me and my husband have been together for 4 years, 5 in february. we have a 3 year old and one on the way. he loves me, i love him. we live a state away from all the family and drama. i am SOOOO sick of his family it's not funny!!! and his uncle, who has been married to a woman is the same way. It's like we're outsiders!!! sooo to make a long story short. My husband's ex, who cheated on him, 3 years before we met, is still in the picture!! I mean I think his family buys her birthday, and christmas gifts, and they don't buy me gifts?? She has a 5 year old, and when my husband and i first started dating they would joke about how much this little girl looks like him. like it was funny to me?? her name is erica, and my husbands name is eric. Name suggestions for our girls?? Erica!!! When she had a problem with her Heating and Air, which my husband used to do, they gave her his number to callhim, like what in the hell is he going to do?? he is another state away, call someone local. When we first started dating there was an incident when she showed up drunk with her friends at his door crying to him that she wanted him back!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i know she is still clinging on to that hope. If we are in town. She'll come over to MIL house and sit there and talk about lunch plans with my MIL. On her myspace there is a picture of my husbands g-ma with her daughter saying, "what would we do without grams" Lately she has been emailing my husband on myspace, just to shoot the shit with him, like talking about her career, and she heard we were having another one. I just don't get it?? they dated for like 4 years. I feel like being the "psycho" girl and emailing her and telling her i don't appreciate her contacting my husband, and to lay off. He doesn't respond, and he doesn't like his family talking to her. But she doesn't give up trying, and it's ANNOYING!!!! What to do?both my husband and i have voiced how we feel about the situation, numerous times, sepereately. like i was just on the phone talking to his mom about it the other day, and she LAUGHED! seriously, she was laughing. she said she could see where i was coming from, but that mabye she's the kind of person that likes to keep in contact with people she knows. o and his cousin and I, we are pretty close. for years, she called her nonstop, infrequently, well his cousin wouldnt answer or return calls, so this ex frickin wrote her a letter!!! saying i don't know what i ever did to you!?!? blah i could go on alllllll day!!!OK let me clarify!!! her daughter is not his.

*MegheN*
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:20 am Post subject:

What a weiner!

smayi
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:23 am Post subject:

How about some ruffles!

Am am
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:24 am Post subject:

She can create alot of problems ... you need to seriously talk to your hubby.. He can tell her off

Messykatttt
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:24 am Post subject:

I think you need to stop having kids with this guy.Sorry to put it that way, but c'mon -- obviously, he has close ties with his family, who has been disrespecting you. Even worse he apparently has not stepped in to put an end to this.And worst of all - he apparently likes to get single women pregnant.Dump him and make a good home for your kids. They deserve a bit more stability.

b
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:25 am Post subject:

Like, oh my god , that is so not right. Not a jealously thing, like, ok, yeah right. I would be, like, so jealous, like I would throw up.I would, like go shopping, until it would hurt.

Dark Angel
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:26 am Post subject:

What is really sad about this is that both your husband and his family are very disrespectful to you. They are treating his ex better then they treat you and that's not right.Your husband should stand up to his family and stop communicating with his ex. I don't know, if it were me....I simply would not put up with this. I would move on from all of them!

Yoshiko H
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:26 am Post subject:

Take your husband to task. Tell him off that you are pissed by his actions and constant pandering to her needs. You are the legal wife now so stake your claim. As for the family, when the time is right and you have to burst out on them, do so too! You are not to be bullied into someone else's shadows!

little thing
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:26 am Post subject:

Poor you.jesus get your husband to tell her get lost and speak to his family

penelope
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:28 am Post subject:

Your husbands family is no doubt being very disrespectful towards not just you but your husband! I dont blame you for feeling bitter. But theirs not alot you can do about it, so I recomend that you blow it off, you have your husband, she doesnt, he loves you & is commited to you so that should be the only thing that matters. Just look at the positve & not the negative, you have alot to be grateful for, so enjoy what you have & let his outside family remain on the outside & dont let them & their bad manners rain on your parade.

laceandcurls
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:29 am Post subject:

If both you and your husband feel this way, why is he giving her his number and shooting the shit with her on myspace? Maybe the two of you just need to stop all contact with his family if they keep throwing her in your face.

DanaLeigh
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:30 am Post subject:

Take this up with him, its very serious. If he wants to think you are jealous then thats fine but you have to pick your battles and this would be my first priority. I can't think of any other way. I want to say though, that this isnt this womans fault, although she should know better. How did you justify yourself marrying into this family? With a husband that doesn't seem to respect you or your marriage? Wow, I know you have children but to me, this would be a deal-breaker. I hope someone can give you some good advice as exactly how to handle this.

greenbaypackers1920
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:31 am Post subject:

I agree with you it not that you are jealousy but it is very disrespect and inaporpriate. It make you feel that he hanging on his ex girlfriend just in case something happen between you too.You know if your husband love you then he should tell his ex to go and letting family know this is my wife and if you don't like my wife then I am out of the picture.That how I did with my mother and my sister. My mother telling my wife everything that I am the last person on earth to find more. I even told my wife if anything that my mom or sister make you feel mad and not like it. You can tell them how you feel and I stand by you becasue you are my wife.She knows that I love her so much and my kids. She and I been married for 10 years but 11 in Oct. we have 3 kids. You know first time we met we broken up together i married other woman and didn't last 8 months then divorce. but everything I try to do for my ex wife she don't care about me becasue she always goes to her family all the time and leaves me out. My wife now I always tell her first before anyone tells her. Reason for that because I love her. She always tells me not need to tell me I believe you. I still do now days, I told my wife going with female friend movie and dinner then come home. she went to work and after work she came home and gave me biggest kiss and hugs said I love you so much. I said "What did I do" She said people at work said saw you with other woman and thinking I was cheating my wife. So my wife told those women at work saying I know my husband ask me and told me if it ok. women at work was shock the heck out of them said "I wish my husband would do the same thing" Women also said "Your husband really loves you alot and kids too." My wife said how lucky to have a husband.What I am try to say is that Your husband should be more with you and baby knowing if he does loves you he should tell the ex go I have family now. and telling his family this is my wife and if you don't like it I am out of the picture.I stop talking to my mother and sister for almost 11 years now. They told me 11 years ago that I was getting marry to fast. I try to tell them she my first and last. and you can see the picture. My wife I will always support my wife. I will never tell my wife to chose me or her family. No, that her family. I do tell her if things you don't like what my mom and sister say. tell them how you feel. She was like really? Yeah, because you are my wife and we work together smiling.I blah blah too much sorry. I hope that your husband need to wake up and see what he doing. I don't think it fair for him to do to you. at all.

Emanon
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:50 am Post subject:

If someone becomes close with a SO of a family member and those two break up, it does not mean the whole family needs to break up with her/him. It is not fair of you to expect his family give up the friendship they have with this woman just because you are now in the picture.

elvlayarvvi
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 7:51 am Post subject:

to be totally honest, him adding her to his my space account gives her total hope that she has a chance of getting him back... she is sitting there thinking "wow! he's talking to me! he added me!"even if he's ignoring her messages... he should block her from being able to send them, that's the truth... I say this because I was that woman at one time... if one of my particular ex boyfriend's answered the phone, I figured I had a chance of getting back with him... I thought there was hope! I went on for years thinking there was hope with this guy, and he gave me reason to think there was as well... many times... him adding her to his my space makes her think there is hope...your husband needs to block her from his my space page...permanently! that's the truth... who cares what his family does...stay away from them... they are not fair to you, just totally lose touch with them... that's what I'd do...

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