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¶Novaj¶
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 Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:11 am Post subject: Older brother? |
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| My older brother never calls home and rarely comes home...He's 23 and has a job, lives with gf, and has a job up north. But he never calls home or does anything with his family. Here are some instances: He never calls my mom on mother's day or buys a card for her or anything, he never calls home on my birthday or any occasion, graduation etc. He never buys us gifts for christmas, instead he buys stuff for all his friends...When he comes home he just spends all his time with his gf who lives in LA. I mean he sees her the whole year but during those few days home can't he stay with his family...geez. I don't know, I just don't feel connected with him and I sometimes forget I even have a brother truthfully...Is this normal for him, cause I hate him for this...putting friends and gf in front of family...when my grandma had surgery he didn't bother calling her or even when my dad went to the hospital...Is my brother distancing from us on purpose or what...My parents work so hard to get him through college, and pay for his $40,000 car after college. I feel like he doesn't appreciate his family at all...He never calls my mom or dad on their birthdays nor on any holiday...I feel like this occured when he went to college and got his girl friend...I know he's busy but at least try to stay connected with family and care about them instead of constantly putting friends and girl friend in front of family...I think that's just wrongI do tell him but he doesn't listen or just forgets right away...He doesn't even know how old I am or what grade i am in...And when he comes home he criticizes so much...I honestly hate my brother...I used to be close to him before he went to college and got a job ...srry but i just needed to vent... |
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elaine_classen
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:28 am Post subject: |
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| When siblings leave you at home and go build their own lives, it is natural to feel left alone. It is also a natural process for your brother to break away from his parents and siblings, and make his own life. I have to agree that your brother seems a bit self-centered, and lacking in manners and appreciation. A phone call or a card should not be beyond his ability. But then again, even taking into account that you are venting, are you not a bit self-centered, too? You are hurt and so you hate him? Is there so little love in your home that he really does not want to be there? |
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gmalou54
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:34 am Post subject: |
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| I am so sorry that you have a brother who doesn't appreciate you. Sounds like he is pretty self-centered and needs to grow up. Just try not to take it personally. It's not about you, it's his problem and you can't make him change. He may come around someday when he is older. You sound like a very caring person and I am sure your parents appreciate you. I know I would.... |
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