Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?

pessimistic · Yahoo User

I met this guy a year ago, and he seemed so lovely and bought me flowers, gifts etc. Was so loving and I fell for him and we got together... Now he has changed.I was warned about him when I first got with him, but I thought he seemed genuine. His ex who my sister in law happened to know, told my at the time best mate that it was the worst relationship she had ever been in - told her what to do, what to wear, etc. I didn't believe her, just thought it was her, but now...Some of the things he does, like he lies a lot, makes things up like what he's supposedly done in his life, lies about so much that he believes it. He has at times tried to tell me not to show my cleavage. He loses his temper so quick and starts over nothing and blames it on me. I was 5min late for dinner once and he started on me even though it weren't my fault. Get's jealous over my guy mates, will get angry if I don't pick up my phone... I once slapped him cos he upset me so much and I felt he was constantly...cont... trying to get me where he wanted me, and he got very aggressive and bruised my arms - was this my fault?Please don't say I am stupid, I think I am stuck in an abusive relationship. I feel like he puts the blame on me for everything so I stay with him because I think it's me who has the problem, he makes me believe I start everything.He once said I am just with him till someone better comes along, he puts me down a lot, and he just get's angry over the littlest things, I feel like I can't move or talk without setting him off!He ended it with me saying I cause too many arguments(it really isn't me) and I cried and begged him to stay and text and called him but he told me to leave him alone and other times that he missed me and loved me.I feel he is playing games, so I stopped contact with him on Friday - I have not heard from him since. All my friends and family don't like him and say he will ring again wanting me back.PLEASE advise me - where do I go? What do I do?Sorry this is so long...Will he change? Will he change for someone else?Is he not contacting me to let me suffer?