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mom2
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:45 pm Post subject: Would any of you women be hurt if you didnt get anything for your anniversary?

I had my 8th anniv last week and I didnt even get a card. I didnt get anything for valentines day or even mothers day. He told me he didnt have time to get me anything. He wont let me get him anything for any special holidays b/c he says he will buy his own gifts he makes the money so in return he doesnt think I deserve anything.

hotsingle_mama
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:49 pm Post subject:

WHOA what the hell are you doing with such a selfish ediot?

LYN JOAN TJoanie
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:49 pm Post subject:

Some people get hurt, but I don't. I just buy my own presents and it means I get what I want every time.

hector s
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:50 pm Post subject:

wow. what an ass. you should give yourself a present and leave this guy.

lisalisa
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:51 pm Post subject:

depends I mean is a a wonderfull husband besides?If so then who cares could be worse you could be getting a knock on the door from another women.Trust me if you got a good man dont sweat the small stuff.

frustrated
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:51 pm Post subject:

Wow. You've lasted 8 years with someone with this type of mentality?! Check your self-esteem and insecurity issues honey. Sounds like there's a problem there! You know in your heart that you deserve better, so why settle? If feasible, why don't you look into getting a job and earning a little cash? Couldn't hurt! And it would only benefit you in the long run! Show him that you don't NEED him for his money and that you are worth a little token of appreciation every now and then! Good luck!

blondbrunette1
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:52 pm Post subject:

Wow, that is terrible. Yes, I would be hurt. I would be hurt if my boyfriend of a little over 2 years didn't get me anything for Valentines. You may want to tell him you are hurt and tell him that the little things eventually snow ball into a huge problem and that splatters into divorce. You can even have the happiness of giving, he needs to know how much you hurt.

Sandy Ego
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:54 pm Post subject:

My husband and I don't usually "get" things for each other; the only time we get gifts for each other is for Xmas, as we always spend Xmas with his family, and they're big on opening gifts and making it a big deal.But usually our best gift to each other is spending time together. We take time to do things together all year round, so it makes every day special, and we don't really care about what the calendar says.It sounds like for you it might be the other way around - you don't feel you're treated well or appreciated regardless of the day of the week. This is a bigger problem than simply not getting something for your anniversary. If disrespect and disregard for your feelings is commonplace in your marriage, why don't you stand up for yourself and say something? It's not about an anniversary card; you deserve to be treated well 24/7/365.

Li P
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:55 pm Post subject:

i'd probably be upset for a little while. While I understand that my boyfriend loves me, I would just be a little disappointed that i didn't get anything. But I don't think I'd get angry. Men aren't really good at remembering dates =]

Aisha D
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:57 pm Post subject:

if its me i'll really be hurt but i think you should sit your husband down and try to explain your feelings to him as they say communication is the key to a successful marriage.

inlove
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 4:00 pm Post subject:

If you really love him, surprise him with something wonderful even if he doesn't get you anything.When you treat him really good, he will wonder why you are been so good to him, when he doesn't deserve it. He will repay you with kindness maybe not immediately but he will.Show slowly how you work even if you don't get a paycheck for it. Gentlely remind him of your value.

Chula
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 4:01 pm Post subject:

That bastard! (I'm sorry), but this really made me mad. What is his problem??? This is totally wrong and not an excuse, at least he could have gotten a card, or even make one for Christ's sakes! I don't understand, it's almost as he just does not respect you, and your life together : ( Honey, I think he is very selfish, either that or something seriously is bothering him that he hasn't shared with you, but that is no excuse what so ever. I want to slap some sense into him! You two should sit down and have a talk about what the issue is, why doesn't he acknowledge you on special days such as your anniversary and other special days which should mean at least something to him. I would love to know his answers to this question. Was he always like this or has he changed over the years? Something is going on with him and you need to get to the bottom of this. You can not keep on taking this emotional abuse because that's definitely what it is. He has a problem and is probably keeping it in and this is his way of taking it out on you perhaps not even knowing that deep down inside it hurts and you're tearing apart.I wish you the best and keep your head up : )

D.
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 4:02 pm Post subject:

My husband doesn't buy me gifts for special ocassionans but he'll buy me just about anything I want..so I guess I don't really need gifts.

noEWin2009
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 4:35 pm Post subject:

Yes i would be hurt. He could have at least bought you flowers or cooked dinner.

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