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Mike L
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 Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:02 pm Post subject: Girl help asap!? |
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| K look i like a girl who already has a bf wich he cheats on her and treats her like crap calls her a bit$$ at times and wat not!... shes only 15 im 17!..... well im away and wont be back till august i told her how i felt about her she does not believe me at all!.... why because i barely know her!... i been liking her over 9 months and just started talkign to her as of march!.1.Do you guys think when i get back in august will it be to late they will be 4 months together? honestly they kick it alot, also brake up then come back?2.Her bday cooming up im planing on getting her roses, and balloons, teddy bear, and a gift card, good idea (dont give a crap wat her bf think!)?3.Why is it she puts up with his ****?... then at times she says she likes him, and at times she does not? |
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giggles
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| go with r heart |
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ItalianGemini
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| 1. Try to send her short, casual emails while you are away. Just "Hi, how are you doing?" NOT "I've always loved you, dump your boyfriend for me, etc etc" You still have a chance!2. Out of your list (roses, balloons, teddy bear, gift card), choose ONE or TWO to send her, no more! Maybe teddy bear and $15 gift card somewhere cute. Listen, I promise you, you won't like what'll happen if you send her all of that. She'll just be creeped out and try to avoid you. I have avoided many guys who seem TOO into me too soon, or send me way too many gifts.3. I can't answer this; nobody can answer this. Why do people act the way they do? Sometimes they make mistakes and you just can't do anything about it. |
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sarah
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| all right1. i don't think its too lateits never to late. if you told her how you felt, she would make up her mind and have time to think. she'll come around. just wait it out. 2. OMG that is such a good idea!!! i love it!3. some girls claim to "love" boyfriends like that. they treat them crappy, but they think they love them and he loves her too. but hes just using her and she doesn't believe it. you should come into her life and make her believe that your right for her. not the other guy that treats her like crap and calls her bad names and stuff..good luck!call her when your gone!get her phone number! |
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Laura C
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| It sounds like she's indecisive...1. I don't think it'll be too late2. good idea BUT don't overdo it... By overdoing it you may come off as a show off to her... Be careful not too much and not too little Also if you have too much the BF might think she's cheating... =S3. My friend has the same kind of boy and i think she puts up with it cause she thinks she can't get anyone better.You have to stay calm and just keep talking to her get to know her and that'll prove you like her. My boyfriend gets me things that he knows i want but i didn't even know what i wanted. That comes from getting to know someone so well that you can read their mind BUT be careful don't slip into the "Guy friend" area. |
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c.geeve
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| well, the key to success is to find something that inspires you. In Kung Fu Panda the panda likes food, and because of his love of food he is able to become the dragon master. Now if you want to become the dragon master my only tip to you is you have the special ingredient already inside of you, you just have to believe in yourself |
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Susan
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Guys of all ages think that a girl will like them more because they would treat her better. They hear her tales of woe and want to save her. Then it's perplexing when she won't leave the jerk. This is soooo common. Please don't expect her to leave him. And if she does she could go right back to him. But you guys are so young, August will not be too late for you. In time she may decide she wants a good guy. But she may be the type that gripes about the bad boyfriend a lot, but never leaves him. If this is the case she stays cause it is her comfort zone, she sees mistreatment as love, and probably has problems in her own home. Don't overdo it on the presents. She knows you like her. A ton of gifts won't make a difference. You're probably already in the "guy I can talk to, 2nd or 3rd backup choice when I'm sad" category. Be cool, be her friend, but stop slobbering over her like a puppy. Believe me she will take you for granted if you do that. |
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j34429
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:13 pm Post subject: |
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| 1i think so2do it f$%^ her bf3the girl is in a place where she just want a bf |
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leo94
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:15 pm Post subject: |
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| hmm this is a toughy.well, with your 3rd question: sometimes its hard for girls. its like an inner battle we have with ourselves. because at times we know the boy can be extremely sweet, but at other times a total jerk. so it all depends on how the boy is acting. the boy may do things to upset her, but then he does something to make up for it.i understand you care for her, and thats great! but seeing as you're 2 years older than her and just recently started talking to her, she may think you're joking. she knows you know she has a boyfriend and may think you're just kidding around. to have a guy friend who is 2 years older than you tell you that may be surprising. if you really like her, just listen to her. although you may be away, stay in contact with her. so when she's upset, you're always there to listen to her. in the end, she can think back and say "oh, well he's really sweet, he would always help me out"if you want to prove to her you like her, you have to fight for her. sometimes you cant get something worth having without fighting for it.i know girls are hard to understand...but to us, boys are insane.if you have further questions just email me:lydieexintense@aim.comi love giving advice, so im here!hope i helped! |
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nj
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:15 pm Post subject: |
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| While you are gone, continue to stay in close contact with her. Phone calls, texts, emails, letters, cards, etc. Don't be pushy, this may cause her to shy away from you. You have already told her how you feel. Don't tell her again, now just show her. Remember actions speak louder than words. I never really understood that saying until after 13 years of marriage. Be her shoulder to lean on when her and her boyfriend get into an argument. But do not give her advice. When she finally realizes what a jerk her boyfriend is, she should have grown a special bond with you and guess who she will turn to |
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SpunkyFunGal
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Sometimes girls stay with a guy for many reasons...maybe she really likes him or he occupies her. Maybe she really doesn't believe how you feel because she is scared or because she knew that you were going to be gone for such a long time. Anyway you have to talk to her and set her straight on how you feel. She is still really young and probably doesn't know yet how she feels about either of you. Be her friend and be there for her when she needs you during those "break-up" times and she may turn to you for all the right honest reasons in the end. The best relationships start out as friends. The birthday gift is a great idea. |
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Korkey
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:16 pm Post subject: |
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1. she is blind of how bad it really is and cant believe someone could be better for her so they will prolly be together unless she sees him for what he is (a dick) and leaves him!!!2. not a good idea maybe a card dont rush i know im a girl3. she thinks she is in love....been there done that!! lol she wants better but is in love with him and dosent really want to let that go there are prolly some good times in that relationship times she wishes could be more often you should show her how happy you can make her but not tooo straight forward !!!  |
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Yung Trill
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:20 pm Post subject: |
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| iight my nigga. as u can tell, im not a girl, but i know EXATLY wat u mean. u gotta not try to to brek them up or convince her not to like him, that will just push her away. u need to be there 4 her when she takes shit from anyone. dont text her or call her hardly ever just let her know ur there 4 her. let her come to u. if they havent had sex, u almost have to do something bfor they do ESPECIALLY if shes a virgin. ask her deep questions about him, dont EVER bring up you two as a couple. always ask how they are to make sure she knows ur interested. just be there for her. it will all work out 4 the best. BALEE DAT!!! |
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