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poorgirl
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: I need a father's day explannation??

For father's day I decided to something special for my boyfriend. We've been together for a little over 2 years and we don't have any kids, but I decided to do something nice for him. I bought him a nice watch and I took his kids and put together a really nice colloage that they help create. I even contacted his son that lives in another city to have him add something to the project. it took a lot of running around putting things together and I also prepared a few dishes to take to his mother's house and fixed breakfast for him and his kids. bought him a nice wicker hamper for his clothes. Washed dishes and folded his clothes. I wanted it to be a relaxing day for him. After, opening his gifts at his mothers, he told me that he wished i would have done something special "just for him". I don't understand that. I felt everything I done was just for him. Can some one explain????Alot of the answers were great, but first of all I don't live with him. His kids don't live with him, he decided to have them for father's day. We (his mother, myself and sisters) had planned this day weeks before that would have a dinner at his mother which they do every year. I don't know what I could have done on this day otherwise.

spawnofazazel
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject:

He wanted some nooky.

♥
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject:

oh he's ungrateful.

rachel t
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:25 pm Post subject:

Sounds like you need a knew boyfriend.

bobby d
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject:

Well, I can see his point some. I'm not sure why preparing dishes to take to his mom's house was just for him. The collage was a great idea since it was from his kids to him.

Magic 8 Ball
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject:

It sounds like you planned a lovely day for him, specifically since he is not the father of your kids OR your father. He is an ungrateful fool and should have thanked you for doing all that you did.

Lady J
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject:

Maybe he was expecting something with just you and the kids....not his family members???? Unless he just wanted to have a relaxing time alone .....ask him what he meant.

terra
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:27 pm Post subject:

Personnaly he's either a jerk or what the first guy said is right. I guess it just depends on the manner in which he said it.

Katie G
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:28 pm Post subject:

omg what a jerk! you went to all that trouble and its like he dose not even care!!!! wow! that is sad. i would just say well see if i ever do anything for you ever again.

formerda
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:30 pm Post subject:

Men can be thoughtless of what come out of their mouths. He probably meant he wanted some you know the thing that they think about every 8 secs.

popadom
Yahoo User

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:30 pm Post subject:

he is a loser,,most men are.he just wants you to be there for him, sod the kids ,a very selfish loser, don't do any think for him again ,,Dump him

Guru
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:31 pm Post subject:

Wow that was messed up of him! I think he wanted something more personal like good morning sex or something. You did give him sentimental things so I do not see why he wouldn't have appreciated that. He probably is happy with the "whole" picture but like he said something special "just for him." When a man says this in the context that you put and he is your boyfriend for 2 years and like a mother figure to his kids, he is most likely meaning sexual favors. Men like that kind of stuff. Especially on fathers day. Take it like this-Kids give gifts hugs breakfast and "I love you's"A wife/girlfriend gives "I love you's" blow jays raunchy good morning sex and pampering.I hopes this helped.

Pisces Princess
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:32 pm Post subject:

It sounds as though he didn't want things shared with his children. However he still should've appreciated what was done for him considering the children that he does have aren't between the 2 of you. Perhaps in his mind everything that was done is done daily by you, his mother or whomever so to him it wasn't special. You need to talk to him so that you can get a clear understanding as to what he meant by what was said. Just let him know that you felt what you did was meant for him and him alone however it seems at though he wanted or needed something other than what you gave. Ask him what could you have done differently, more of or less of to make it seem as though it was special and just for him.

Piper D
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:35 pm Post subject:

Maybe he's talking about sex. I don't know. His children and their mother could and should have done something for him not involving you. Your lives are seperate. After their thing, the two of you should've spent alone time together. That's what he may have been hinting at. All that stuff was cool, but he probably just wanted to hang with you without involving his children or mother. You were doing house work instead of just chilling. That's very nice what you did, but he obviously didn't need a maid. Alot of men don't need woman to do stuff for them. Just be there; your presence is all he really needed. He wanted his girlfriend on that day. Just let him know you where trying to show him that you appreciate him.

Michael G
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Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 12:35 pm Post subject:

Funny how we all view things from our perspective...I am a single dad as well, who had a great time with my kids & my g/f over father's day... I spent the morning walking the beach with her, then dropped her off and spent the afternoon with the kids (lunch/gifts/games)... very relaxing...I am sure you had the right intentions... and find that often in these situations you would be better off asking what he wants... communication about events that span kids & you are hard to get right by assuming ... so here is my input to you, for what it is worth....sounds like you put in a lot of effort on what you thought he would like... you spoke with his kids, and helped 'them' (not him) put together what should have been their effort to create a gift for their dad.... you made breakfast for 'everyone' (not just him), bought a hamper for the 'house' (not him). Perhaps he would have enjoyed going out with you alone for a walk, a movie, a coffee/drink... where he doesn't have to share his time across his kids, his mom, and you... your heart & effort was great... just need the communication to hit the mark.just my 2 cents...good luck :>)

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