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Author Message scarlette Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:05 am    Post subject: What to do about unemotional husband? I recently graduated from university, and while my husband told me he was so proud of me, his eyes said nothing. within 5 minutes of getting home my grandparents were round with a card and bottle of champagne. its been nearly a week now since i got my results and i have still not received even a card from my husband. i also ended up leaving my home the same day to go and help my husband work over the weekend, instead of celebrating with my friends.I should probably be used to this, i have never received any valentines gifts either, which was particularly humiliating this year when my university friends were all comparing presents. No-one could believe i got nothing.To be fair, my husband is kind, generous, loving etc i am very lucky and birthdays and christmas are also a delight!I guess i must sound like a real selfish B****, but i guess some recognition would be nice.Thoughts please?! Back to top mr wiseman Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:07 am    Post subject: men don't have emotions. get used to this. Back to top bigmac01 Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:08 am    Post subject: No emotions from your husband, but what kind of emotions does he display when your having sex with him? Back to top Angelina Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:09 am    Post subject: I'm sure he's happy for you, maybe he's just not sure what to do. Too bad he didn't think to take you out to dinner. Back to top paresh g Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:11 am    Post subject: Don't be disheartened, you have to fill in emotions in him, by doing the same things repeatedly, as you expect from him Back to top kelliep1777 Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:12 am    Post subject: Have you tried telling him this, I know it sux to have to come right out and ask, but he may not know how important it is to you. I never get THINGS for v-day usually he will sing to me or put on our wedding song and ask me to dance in yard after our son is in bed or he will just write me a love note, that stuff means more to me than THINGS. Back to top teacher 55 Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:12 am    Post subject: You are going to have to teach this guy. He loves you but he just doesn't get it. Even though it isn't fun to get presents you told him to get for you he will learn how to do it on his own. He just doesn't have a clue right now what he should be doing or he doesn't understand how important it is to you. Back to top gemma l Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:13 am    Post subject: I'd talk to your husband about it. Don't be too critical though, tell him all the good things you have put here. Then tell him you feel like you need a bit of recognition for what you have achieved. He probably doesn't realise how much this bothers you, at least then he can try and put it right. When valentines day comes around again I'd ask him if he would like anything, or if he would like to go somewhere special. Tell him how nice it would be to do something special for each other, he may get the hint! Back to top free_angel Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:14 am    Post subject: You should of sent him off to work, stayed home and drank that bottle of champagne. Back to top Ayesha C Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:15 am    Post subject: Probably he does not know about what your feeling about him. I say you should tell him up front what you feel and see what he says. I think he is unaware and he is doing what he thinks is right. He said that he was proud of you, but (judging his prersonality from what you have said) it seems as if he cant express his feelings of love to you. You shoujld tell him what you want and how he should react to your accomplishments. Back to top pebbles Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:15 am    Post subject: Wow! It sounds like we have the same husband!! I think mines worse though. Our birthdays are on the same day, which I think is special, and he doesn't get me a thing. I know with my husband, certain things aren't important to him like they are to me, so what I taught myself to do, is when its valentines day or my birthday, I go buy my own gift and I make sure I tell him I did. My plan every year is to get more expensive things. Maybe he'll eventually wake up and take over his job!!!LOL Back to top dohm84 Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:15 am    Post subject: All I ever get for v-day is a card (if I'm lucky)V-day for me just means a extra sad day of feeling like he does not care......I buy him flowers just so I can have them around the house. He thinks they are for him, but they are really for me. Back to top dark eyes Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:16 am    Post subject: Maybe if you'd get him something for Valentines Day, etc...it would throw a hint at him to get you something, too. Men's thought processes aren't the same as women. They like to be told [spelled out] what to do to make their spouse happy. That's why we get so angry at them when they're not "reading" our body language...they just don't "get it".Why don't you suggest maybe a nice dinner out to celebrate your recent graduation. Sometimes we have to reward ourselves and help them reward us, too. Back to top saturdayavatar Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:17 am    Post subject: talk with him about it,say you felt it was a big thing to graduate because it is and say you want to celebrate it,and also say you how you feel about valentines day.some guys just don't do a lot of gift giving or only celebrate certain things or are more concerned about themselves, it depends on the guy.but if these things matter with you, talk with him about everything and if things don't change you have to decide if this is how you want to live your life and make changes so you are happy or just accept that is how he is about these things and make time for yourself, and in the future it is ok if he doesn't want to celebrate with you, celebrate with your friends. Back to top $t3v3 Yahoo User Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:18 am    Post subject: you married a man not a women. you want to see him sparkle in his eyes. buy him season tickets to the astros. promise he wont forget a v day after that Back to top

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