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klulumyers
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 Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:08 pm Post subject: What is the most tasteful way to ask for monetary gifts instead of material gifts for our wedding? |
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| We are getting married in August and are about to send out the invites. We don't need anything for our house as this is both of our second wedding. We would rather that our guests, if they want to give a gift just give us the money that they would spend on a gift instead. I hate asking for money, but I don't want to have to return gifts only to explain why in the future. |
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kno.it.all
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:12 pm Post subject: |
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| There is no tasteful way to ask for money. If you don't register for gifts people will get the hint. Ask your close friends and family to politely say "They would prefer money in lieu of gifts" if anyone asks. Whatever you do - don't write it on the invitation! That's just tacky. |
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B2B 6-27-09
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Heather D
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:13 pm Post subject: |
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| You just tell family and they can spread the word. Never never put it in your invitation.There are some sites where you can register for honeymoons or mortgage savings. You open an account and say you are registered at www.blahblahblah.com and there are all of the places where you are registered. People can but a gift card to your fund or whatever. You will still get picture frames and other garbage you didn't register for. People always do that. They are regifting or just bargain shopping. |
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Special K
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:13 pm Post subject: |
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| You can't ask for monetary gifts. But, there is a way around this. You could say no boxed gifts. Alot of countries do this, chinese and india. They never do boxed gifts only monetary. I have an Italian friend who lives here and married here and thats what they put in the invites. "No boxed Gifts." You could also have donations made to your favorite charity if you don't want gifts. |
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sarcoplasm
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Gifts should never be brought up by the couple - it is tacky and rude.If someone approaches you or the party, then it is ok to say there is no registry as the couple has already aquired all household items.Hopefully your guests will get the idea and leave money. |
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shaynalm
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:14 pm Post subject: |
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| There is a website that you can register for events, big ticket item, ect. www.ourwishingwell.comCheck it out. We are doing it for our wedding. It has worked great and I have heard nothing but delight from friends and family. |
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Dee
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:15 pm Post subject: |
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| For our wedding we registered at justgive.org On our invitations we had a separate card stating, "In lieu of gifts, please go to the following site to donate to the charities we have chosen." The site allows you to pick charities you want your guests to donate to and it also allows you to make a wedding homepage detailing why you chose to donate. |
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My Three
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:15 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't see a tasteful way you could add this to your invite. I think you should not do a registry and let your wedding party know that if anyone ask where you are registered they can tell the guest that monetary gift are welcomed due to the fact this is a second wedding |
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sparkleprincess_77
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:16 pm Post subject: |
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| My cousin registered at honeymoon wishes for their wedding last summer. she didn't need anything because they both lived on their for so long. check it out.. That's where i registered too. You get to choose all kinds of "gifts" for your guests to buy for your honey, but I believe everything comes to you in the form of a check so you can use it on your honeymoon or after you get back too. |
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kakeydec
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Most people give money ...unless you specifically let them know you are registered at a department store.....You are going to get some gifts what are you gonna do? ..YOu cant ask for monetary gifts ONLY.... |
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Galaxie Girl
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:18 pm Post subject: |
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| I hope you don't expect to even get gifts from everyone who attends, since this is your second wedding. It's tacky to mention anything about gifts in the invite because it implies you expect something. Just be grateful for whatever you get.Oh, if you don't register anywhere (which you shouldn't for a second wedding anyway), people often take that to mean you prefer money instead of material gifts. |
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Linds
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:18 pm Post subject: |
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| Sorry, but there really isn't a tasteful way to ask for money! Maybe if you don't register anywhere, people may choose to give you money instead of a gift. However, you'll probably recieve lots of things that aren't your taste! Many people simply don't like to give money as a gift (I am one of them).By the way, gift information should never be included in your invitation (including information on where a person is registered)! It should only be passed along by word of mouth when someone asks. |
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MelZ
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:18 pm Post subject: |
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| There is no tasteful way to ask for money. You shouldn't say anything, and just hope for money. |
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junkfortom
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Unfortunately it is usually seen as rude to ask for or to give money in lieu of a gift. My suggestion is to give a *gentle* reminder to include the gift receipt with the gifts and return them all in one go. Keep gifts from close family or those who may be offended by a return, but remember that no one has a right to be offended by a return! |
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