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opsc_05
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 Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 2:36 pm Post subject: Any ideas for gift certificates for childrens good behavior? |
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| I have made a few for $1, Wii Time, and Lazy Hour. I need some other things to put on the certificates as a reward for completing chores, and overall good behavior.My son has ADHD, ODD, AND OCD. The Wii is not their to play. They are expected to behave everyday. I get many compliments on how well behaved all four of my children are. I don't think a reward for doing an unexpected chore, or being extra helpful is ridiculous either. I didn't ask how to punish them, or what you thought of my parenting style either, Ramsey. Some children don't give a rats @ss what their parents think of them. I know I didn't. Just because you behaved like a statue so your father would love you, doesn't mean my children act in the same manner. |
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Kashi
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| Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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| How about go get ice cream, pick out what is for dinner, dessert first, pick out any book at the bookstore, pick out a movie rental............. |
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ramseycat@att.net
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| Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 2:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Yeah, here's an idea. Don't bribe your child to be good. It sets up a bad precedent. You're giving them permission later on to black mail you and say to you " Give me this, or I won't be good ! ". A child shouldn't be working to earn cash for being good. You aren't supposed to pay children to be good. They should be able to play with their Wii as long as they haven't done anything to lose that priviledge. Lazy hour ? You're going to charge your child for the priviledge to lay around and be lazy. They have to be good and earn a certificate just so they can lay around and be lazy afterwards. Gee, when I was a child, I behaved well just to earn my father's respect. I wanted him to see me as a well behaved child, that was important to me. Nor did he ever tell me that I couldn't play with my toys, because I hadn't earned any good behavior certificates. I'm also fairly sure that if I had a whole handful of them stocked up from good behavior that I'd demonstrated on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday, that I still wouldn't have been allowed to play with my toy if I tried to cash them in on Thursday, when I'd decided to be bad. What are you planning on doing if she's good half the week, and earns her certificates, but wants to cash them in on the day that she's been bad all day ? Don't get me wrong, I'm into behavior modification. I believe in rewards and punishments. I just believe than punishments should come at the time that they are deserved. Likewise, that rewards should come when they most seem to be deserved. They should never be something that translates into a cash equivalent that seems to be an anticipated bribe. That would set up an expectation on the child's end of things, and cause the child to be good only in order to get the reward. Kind of like a dog that does his tricks as long as you don't run out of doggie treats. When he's full, and not interested any longer, he just lays there and looks at you wondering if you're going to offer something better, and when ? My father rewarded me often. If he asked me to give him a hand with the garden, and he was pleased with my effort, he might take me out for an ice cream cone at the dairy queen afterwards. He didn't have to bribe me to help, and I wasn't expecting the reward. I had simply pleased him, so he tried to please me. That's the way it should be. |
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chattymom4
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| Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 3:55 pm Post subject: |
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| whatever he wants for dinnerstaying up 30 minutes latera fun bubble batha movie rental at blockbusterout for ice-cream |
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Ava W
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| Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 4:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Maybe a fun activity. Art project, day at the zoo, something where they can still learn and grow. The science museum or the library. The gift of a book is a nice thought. |
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momof4
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| Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2008 6:30 pm Post subject: |
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| My kids have always responded best to "activity" prizes rather than material prizes. Things like playing an extra board game with a parent, having a "camp out" in the living room, going for a family walk in the woods, going bowling or sledding or something, getting a night to set the menu and help make dinner, having a pillowfight before bed, etc. can make good motivators. Often it works just to keep track of good behavior even without a prize. When we eat out at restaurants, the kids keep tallies of how many times they say please, thank you, etc. to the servers. We don't actually give a reward for any numbers of tallies; the tallies themselves seem to be a good motivator for my kids, and they're always trying to beat their record in getting as many as they can. Once in a while we'll declare a day when we keep track of "kindness tallies" as well. We did it the other day and I had to try really hard not to laugh as all the kids fell all over themselves trying to be kind to somebody every second. They were quite upset when I had to tear them away from cleaning the bathroom (their idea; they wanted to be kind to me, lol) so they could go to their swimming class.... |
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ravensgal63
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| Posted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 6:38 am Post subject: |
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| a trip to ChuckECheese |
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