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momx2
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 Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:52 am Post subject: Do I need to give a shower gift AND a wedding gift? |
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| What's the proper etiquette? We are invited to a wedding shower for the granddaughter of a neighbor. We don't know the granddaughter all that well. Do we need to take a shower gift and send a gift for the wedding (not sure if we will be able to attend the wedding)?Thanks for your help. |
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Heavenbound
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:56 am Post subject: |
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| No, if you give a shower gift you don't need to give a wedding gift. |
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tweetyfsu
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:57 am Post subject: |
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| If you have been invited to both you need to send both. It doesn't have to be expensive.... |
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Christine M
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:57 am Post subject: |
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| If you dont know her that well, I wouldnt worry about attending the shower. I would just attend the wedding and bring a gift. You do mention you are not sure if you are going to the actual wedding, so just send the gift with a nice card. |
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nofear_intrepid40
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:57 am Post subject: |
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| My thinking is only if you can afford to do so.You can kind of compare this to my aunt for instance,who has a birthday on Christmas Day.I'm guessing ashe wouldn't care if she didn't get a Christmas AND birthday present on the same day. |
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Chloe H
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:58 am Post subject: |
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Well really you dont actually have to do both, but some people do. It is optional. I personally, would just do one or the other. Unless, it was a really close friend or family member and I liked them enough to do both....  |
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Bill C
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:59 am Post subject: |
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| Yes, to be proper, you should have a gift for both. Why not give a card with money in it for both. As we all know, new parents / newlyweds, always need money for something. |
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Challah back Girl...
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:01 am Post subject: |
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| Send a nice card for the shower and in the card say that you are sorry that you are unable to make it to the wedding, but you wish them the best and here is there gift and be done with it. |
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jmad
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:01 am Post subject: |
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| You can either give one at the event you are attending (shower or wedding) or you can give one at both events. If you plan on giving anything at the shower, I would try to pick something off of her gift registry. It's supposed to be a big gift giving affair. Cards and cash/gift cards are more for the wedding. Good luck and have fun!!! =) |
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LifeIsGood
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:02 am Post subject: |
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| Well, I don't think you have to do both because you said yourself you don't know her that well and you may not even be able to make it to the wedding so I think one gift is enough. |
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KayDee
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:33 am Post subject: |
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| You only have to give one gift unless the shower is a themed shower such as lingerie for example. Then it would be appropriate to give the theme appropriate gift at the shower and a normal gift at the wedding.If you are going to the shower only, then you should give a gift AT the shower. If you are only going to the wedding, take a gift to the wedding. If you are going to both, then you can certainly take a gift to both, but it is perfectly good etiquette to just take a gift to the shower, because the shower is more personal and the bride will usually unwrap the gift there. At the wedding, they usually just ship the gifts home. |
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Leah
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:37 am Post subject: |
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| I think you do both |
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Charlotte K
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:41 am Post subject: |
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| If you are attending both, you have to give one at both.However if you are just attending the shower, that's all you need. |
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100% Organic Snark™
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:43 am Post subject: |
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| Yes, you do. You don't have to go all out and spend the same for both, but if you've been invited to both, you need to get something for both.If you don't personally know the bride and/or groom, get a gift card for whatever stores they're registered in.I hate it when people invite people they don't know to their weddings and showers. Just because you know their grandmother is no reason to expect them to know YOU. |
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next?
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 9:28 am Post subject: |
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| None of the above, you don't know her well so no worries. And if you do actually attend the shower then yes, you would need to bring a gift, not otherwise though. |
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