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Tay
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 Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 7:58 pm Post subject: Father in law wants wedding gift back? |
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| My father in law gave my husband $500 towards our wedding because he was going to be out of the country for the wedding. Now that his dad is back, he wants the money back and he is saying that it wasn't really a gift. What would you do? How would you feel about this? |
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Laura A
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 8:05 pm Post subject: |
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| wat a tossersorry but its true |
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doc
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 8:08 pm Post subject: |
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| First, you stay out of it. It's a problem between your husband and his father. Second, if dad is saying it wasn't really a gift there are two things to consider:1) he's right and it was a loan. Pay it back and forget it.2) he gave the money as a gift and is asking for it back. If this is the case, pay it back. Your husband's relationship with his father is more important than the money. Yes, we could say the same about dad not asking for the money back, but he did so your husband has to take the ball and run with it. |
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CindyLu
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 8:10 pm Post subject: |
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| I would give him back every red cent as soon as I possible could get it to him.... and then that would be it and he would be out of my life after that. |
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juliejuliejulie
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 8:22 pm Post subject: |
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| Too much information is missing here. But the short answer is that it's an issue between your husband & his father, and I would probably feel uneasy that I'd married a man who can't even manage relationships within his own family.Say nothing, do nothing, just pay attention to your own marriage. |
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Reba
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 8:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Wow, that's unbelievable. Although I am sure you feel in the middle of this issue, and it was your wedding too, i agree that the real issue is between your husband and his father. Although it is incredibly rude of him to give you money and then ask for it back. I don't understand what type of parent does that.But it's probably best to pay him back when you can, but I would let them work it out! |
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TotalRecipeHound
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 9:54 pm Post subject: |
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| I would give him the money back and if I were his child, I would cut him out of my life for some time. Do not accept any gifts or money from him in the future. As the bride, I would be angry, but think of how humiliating this is for your husband and keep your peace. |
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Caitie
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Keep it |
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"Shakes"
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 3:25 am Post subject: |
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| my father would do something sleezy like that. Give it back, every last cent. don't even bat an eye, hand over a cheque and say "here you go, thank you" and smile. It's not worth trying to understand because there's no logic in this kind of behaviour.Keep this in mind for every other big event and promises from him to your future children. For your own sanity don't be surprised if it happens again. Sorry sweety. |
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