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erleny
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 Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:43 am Post subject: Is it proper to throw a naugty girl party for a bridal shower and is it ok you ask for monetary or gift card? |
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| My friend is having a bridal shower it is a naughty girl party, and they ask for monetary gifts or gift cards and for the bride to be to make a list of things that she wants and if you want you can purchase something for her. Is this ok or improper? |
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spawnofazazel
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:47 am Post subject: |
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| In my opinion, it is improper to ask for a gift in the first place. |
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Brian A
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:50 am Post subject: |
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| The point of bridal showers is to "shower" the bride with gifts. While I think it is mildly tacky to specify gifts, it is less so than when done with a wedding invitation. Ideally the gifts should be something related to married life, rather than just being a bonus Christmas for the bride. |
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nova_queen_28
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:50 am Post subject: |
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| I'm guessing this is one of those ladies only adult novelty parties. THAT isn't unheard of and is fine.However, asking for cash or gift cards is not appropriate, especially for a shower.The shower is typically when the bride gets physical gifts from the registry and the wedding is usually the time cash is given. |
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Angie
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:51 am Post subject: |
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| The "naughty girl" parties are what the Bachelorette Parties are for. The Bridal showers are for close family and friends and are usually gifts bought off of a registry like Bed, Bath, & Beyond or JcPenney, etc. It's improper to ask for money or anything of that sort. If they are registered you can put that they are registered at this place in the invitations but never ask for money or gift cards. |
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Tari D
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:56 am Post subject: |
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As long as she will not be embarrsssed cause her lovely mom, aunt, and grandma were invited!!! What I would recommend is a bridal shower with friends, other church friends, and family like aunt and grandma if they are close to her. For this, a gift is expected instead of money but you should do as you feel! Personally I would announce that gifts are welcomed, but stress that money is most preferred.On another night, have the bachelorette party with her girlfriends, bridesmaids, and sisters when you can bring on the naughty in a fun environemnt with no embarrassment. And it is all fine to ask for monetary gifts instead of packaged gifts...it is becoming more widely accepted these days. Besides, most brides-to-be WOULD prefer the money...I know I would!!! (What am I gonna do with 38 new lingerie??? -- I prefer to sleep in the nude!!!!) <-- and I am SURE my future husband will too!!  |
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tricebob
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:58 am Post subject: |
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| I think it is okay depending on your guest and ages. I would just throw an intimate party with close family and friends so you do not offend anytone. When I got married (last year) I did not specify the type of gift I wanted. I found that people will give what they want and about 70% of my gifts were gift cards and money...the rest where good gifts. |
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kill_yr_television
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 12:06 pm Post subject: |
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| There are only two types of parties at which gifts are required. One is a shower, in which some kind host solicits gifts for a needy member of some OTHER family -- never the host's own family. (You don't give showers for members of your own family because it is greedy looking. And all brides and moms-to-be are needy.) The other type of party where gifts are required is a small child's birthday party.If this party isn't a child's birthday and doesn't fulfull the requirements for being a shower then it's pretty darn boorish to instruct people to bring a present. If it IS a shower, then there is nothing incorrect about the host SUGGESTING (not commanding) what general type of gift is most appreciated. However, these suggestions should NEVER imply that any particular cash value is expected OR leave obvious avenues to compare purchase price. (For instance, you can't be sure how much a kitchen appliance cost -- it may be a sale item, used, or a recycled gift. A gift card shower should have ANONYMOUS gifts only, so no one can compare levels of gifting.)Sorry for such a long answer to a short question, but I wasn't sure whether or not this wind ding was a shower. |
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Chze Whiz
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| Posted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 3:36 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, that sounds like it would be better for the bachelorette party. You might embrass the poor girl with the naugthy stuff. Would YOU want YOUR mom, grandma, aunt, etc watching you open naughty girl gifts if it was YOU? Maybe so, maybe not. Why not have a normal shower and a seperate naughty girl shower. As far as the gift thing, just direct them to her gift registry, after all, a gift registry is just a list of gifts. |
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