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batemanc001
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 Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:42 am Post subject: How to write No gifts please and mean it? |
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| My husband and I are both in the Military and are returning "home", we have lived here before, left and returned. We have purchased another house in the same area, thus same friends. We are having a house warming/ home coming and do not want our friends to bring gifts... we would like to have a "no hassle" party and have fun! I have researched this on the web too death! I understand that we shouldn't even mention gifts however I believe this occasion is a little different from the norm. Could use a few suggestions so we don't offend anyone? Thanks |
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Leanna E
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:47 am Post subject: |
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| Even if you tell people no gifts, some will still bring them as they feel the "no gifts' deal is a nice gesture to their guests that they just want them to come not to worry about gifts, but some people don't realize no gifts mean no gifts. |
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Gramma
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:48 am Post subject: |
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| Just add a memo so all gifts should go to your charity of choice. |
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wilderwriter
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:48 am Post subject: |
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| Stupid suggestion, maybe: how about having a theme party to celebrate your homecoming by collecting for a charity - food bank, toys-for-tots, etc - and tell everyone to bring a donation. That should detract them from thinking about bringing you a housewarming gift, and give an excuse for someone who woul;dn't have brought you a gift in the first place. |
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Ms.6
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:50 am Post subject: |
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| Don't call it a housewarming party just call it a welcoming home party. Mention to a close friend that you hope no one brings any gifts that way it will have word of mouth effect. Also you could just put a * on the invitation and at the bottom in smaller print say although it is a thoughtful gesture we ask that you don't bring any gifts. Thank you. Or something to that effect. |
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SINGER...
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:50 am Post subject: |
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| On the inside of the invitation in your own handwriting you can state - "No hassle - bring your appetite and be ready to have a good time!" Or something to that effect. But people are going to be people - expect someone to bring a gift anyway. |
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Doc
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:50 am Post subject: |
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| Your friends will want to at least provide something for the party; no one likes to show up empty-handed. Why not make it a potluck, and have folks bring some food or drink? It'll allow everyone to contribute something useful, and generally add to the celebration. |
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Sadie S
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:51 am Post subject: |
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| this is what I did and it worked wonderfully. I wrote on the invitations: gifts are not expected, however, if you feel you want to bring something, we will gladly accept donations for ____(list favorite charity here...i.e, homeless shelter, etc) in honor of this celebration. |
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Kirby
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:51 am Post subject: |
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| I've received invitations where it is clearly stated- "No gifts at all please! Your presence is better than presents". |
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Jm e
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 11:02 am Post subject: |
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| Even if you write no gifts on the invitation, some people will still bring something. Just load everything up and bring it to some local non-profit organization you think could use it. |
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Danielle Jean
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 11:04 am Post subject: |
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| just write "No Gifts Please!" on the invitations. |
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fartmongers
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 11:13 am Post subject: |
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| Don't refer to it as a housewarming or home coming party. Call it a get-together, picnic, bbq, or whatever. If you make it about your friends, and not about yourselves, likely no one will even think about bringing a gift. |
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dawnb
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 11:37 am Post subject: |
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| You may want to give up on this one. No matter if you state "no gifts", people will still bring them. It's just what people do. It will be less of a hassle after all if you just go with the flow and be polite in accepting whatever they bring. |
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monmichka
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 12:10 pm Post subject: |
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| You should tell them, "The only gifts accepted will be the gift of your presence." |
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InkAddict
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 12:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Thanks for your service to our country!I understand that you are smart and aren't going to make ANY mention of gifts on the party invitations (right?)You might mention to your parents and your in-laws that you're SERIOUS and you don't want any gifts and then let them pass the word along.Also, if any potential guests call about what you'd like as gifts, you're well within the bounds of etiquette to tell them politely that no gifts are needed, thank you. Also, most "housewarming" gifts are houseplants and wine anyway (it's not like a wedding where you get a toaster and new dishes) so would that really be so bad? |
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