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Kelly S
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 Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:39 pm Post subject: Grandparents didn't get B-day present for 1st B-day? |
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| My newphew (11) is in town alone visiting his grandparents (my mother). My mom has taken him to the store countless times and has spent a few hundred on him already. My daughter's first birthday was Saturday and my mom and dad didn't get anything for her. This is tricky to explain because I'm not really upset about my daughter not getting a gift! I live fifteen minutes away from my parents and we'd probably only see them on holidays if I didn't make the effort and go to their house weekly. I also have the only two grand kids in the state! Maybe I just feel second fiddle. Would you be upset?Thanks for the help. |
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Kirby
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Maybe she just needs a gentle reminder? Perhaps you can invite her over for birthday cake- I'm sure she'll remember soon enough! |
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BoysMommy
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Stop worrying about other people buying gifts. You may end up feeling like a jerk when something comes in the mail. And if it doesn't, so what? Gifts should be given because someone wants to give one, not because they have to, or owe someone. |
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mintessence
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, I'd be upset. The least they could do is an inexpensive savings bond. ^..^ |
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bjoy
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:51 pm Post subject: |
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| I completely understand what you are saying. My husband's brother lives several states away, we are only 3 hours away. My husbands nieces seem to get more from the grandparents. I am not jealous or really upset I just worry about how my kids will feel when they are old enough to figure it out. I love my BIL and his wife and their girls are beautiful and wonderful girls, I thing some times grandparents are trying so hard to show the love to the distant children that they forget about the ones right next door. This is a timeless issue that I am sure many people can relate too.In the long run, I think you have to weigh it out, it might just be a waste of energy to get upset and unless you are going to address it with your parents then maybe you should just let it go - don't let it build until you are truly upset and a real fight starts. Good Luck |
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Wonder B*tch
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Your parents are making up for time and visits they don't get from the out of state family members. They look at you and your children as someone that doesn't need that kind of love. My mother is the same way. She spoils her other grandchildren and forgets mine. She thinks that we don't need it or something. Parents should be fair, but their not. Ask her why tell her the truth. It's about the gift it's the comparison. good luck |
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rachel
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes I would be upset. I would also talk to them about how I felt |
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grammie
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 6:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes I'd be upset, and I'd ask them about it too! |
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Nik
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 6:20 pm Post subject: |
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| I understand so much. My sister has a son that is 3 months younger than my daughter and my mother sees him almost everyday. But she only stops to see my daughter every once in a while. It is upsetting to think that your child doesn't matter as much to their grandparents. but it really isn't like that and I have to remind myself of that all the time. My sister just needs help so she is around her a lot. And I don't really need any help . You just have to remember that grandparents love their grandkids very much. You could just try asking them to do things more often, invite them over for dinner or something, or take your child to their house for a while. It takes effort on both parts. Good luck! |
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mutemouse
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| Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 7:43 pm Post subject: |
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| My in-laws didn't buy anything for my daughter's birthday, either. They do buy her stuff all the time, though and put money into a savings account for college. I think those things are more important, but I do worry about how my daughter will feel about it when she's older. Kids don't understand the idea of saving for college. To them, it's a million years away and not something you can put your hands on. If they don't buy her something for her bday this year, I'm going to save something they send her and wrap it up for her bday. That way she gets the immediate gratification of a gift and growth in her savings account. I don't want her to be mad at her grandparents when they are doing something so nice for her. |
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