Is this really awful as a wedding gift?
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Tink
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 Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:17 pm Post subject: Is this really awful as a wedding gift? |
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| A couple I barely know invited me to a wedding. I do know they are rather poor, and starting out an entirely new household. I am rather poor and have been unemployed for quite sometime.On the bridal registry there were several sets of luxury sheet sets.Someone gave me one of those sets this spring - I had them on the bed for a week, and decided that "ivory" was simply too yellow for my tastes. I washed them, put them in the closet and forgot about them.If I were to wash them, go over them with a fine toothed comb for lint, press them very well, tie them with ribbons, place them in a wicker gift basket, and have the thing shrink wrapped would it be so awful to give as a gift?Let me know what you think - I would like to give them something they requested, but couldn't afford it otherwise. |
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stevian1
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:23 pm Post subject: |
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| That is the epitome of tacky |
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Chelsea Girl-NYC
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Absolutely not!Recycling, especially as a wedding gift is, well, tasteless!AND,, they will know what you did.give them a small simle & inexpensive gift from your heart.Like a unique photo frame instead to place their wedding photo in. It would also not blow your bank account. |
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John W
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject: |
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| If the sheets are in good shape, it's a great idea! Forget "tacky". Who cares what you spend on a gift? They won't know unless you tell them that it is "regifted". I think if you go to the trouble of cleaning, pressing and etc. they will be as good as new. It's actually very thoughtful. I know a lot of people who don't even give wedding gifts so giving anything is better than nothing. Go for it. |
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Jailene S
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| thats a bad gift sorry |
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MikeyintheOC
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Tink, you do what you have to do. No one needs to know and if you think its an a acceptable gift then why not. |
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♥hails♥
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| You would have to look very carefully, any stains then no its not a good gift, but definitely have it cleaned the best you can. If the sheets are ok (being used for only a week) then I think it would be a nice gift, very thoughtful as they have requested this. Are gifts limited to registries though? I dont think you have to get anything that is listed on a registry, it would be nice to suprise them with something else if you dont decide to go ahead with the sheets. |
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avomatic
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:29 pm Post subject: |
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| forget wedding registries, i hate those things, beggars cant be choosers, buy something nice that most new couples will need at home, like an electric wok or nice silverware. if you want to recycle your sheets as a gift, go right ahead, everybody does it. |
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kitelemon
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, I don't really think that flies. I mean, if they needed sheets, you could give the sheets to them casually. If you can't afford a wedding gift, you can't afford a gift! A card is fine. If you do something like cooking, a handmade set of recipes is kind of fun, maybe attached to a box of cookies of something. You should feel even less obligated to purchase or give a gift since you barely know them. Just make sure you respond with whether you are attending. She girls I didn't know very well and invited me to their wedding meant one of two things. They were showing off (maybe gift fishing) or really didn't know that many people. Best of luck! |
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Leigh
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:41 pm Post subject: |
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| I have to disagree with most of your responders. I think it's a lovely idea. I've been poor for quite sometime myself, so I understand. I have given unconventional gifts for Christmas the past few years, and no one has thought worse of me for it.Since you said there is nothing wrong with the sheets and they're nice, my biggest concern would be messing up their registry ... getting them one more of something than they need. But I don't think you can have too many sets of nice sheets, so that should be okay.What I would do if I were you, is sometime after the wedding find an appropriate time to explain the how and why behind your gift. If they know you're poor and having problems they will be especially touched that you parted with something so nice and went to so much trouble to make it presentable. It really is the thought that counts. |
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Tonya W
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:50 pm Post subject: |
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| It sounds kind of tacky, but being that you are poor too, it's the thought that counts. They will probably like your gift the best. The wicker basket will be a nice touch. |
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walterknowsall
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| Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:00 am Post subject: |
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| very tacky to give a used gift for a wedding.. i would buy a few small bottles of seasoning, a small notebook of easy to cook recipes [favorite of yours] or a store gift card from safeway. |
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MissKitty
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| Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:04 am Post subject: |
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| Oh God, please, not used sheets! I'm poor also, paycheck to paycheck, but I would go to a store and pick something out that I could afford. You do not have to get something from the list, but at least get new sheets. |
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| Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:39 am Post subject: |
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| If you have no money.. then they will appreciate them as long as you make sure to wash them and do what you said.. they are poor also so they will understand that not everybody can give away luxury items.. and as you are living from unemployment cheques.. you can't be expected to shop at the most expensive shops for wedding gifts.. One thing though.. sometimes you find amazing things at flea markets and not expensive.. just another idea... a good place to look for bargains when you haven't got much money... to give a nice gift or to get something you might want for yourself.. xxx |
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Zeenia
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| Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 2:21 am Post subject: |
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| Nononono please don't do that. A marriage gift requires it be new. That just feels right. What I can suggest is that why not gift them something from your side which doesnt have to be from the registry? It can be your own personal gift of something that you can afford. The way I see it, registry is just for direction, it's not really a iron written rule that every gift has to be from there. U can give ur own gift. Make it thoughtful. It does not have to be expensive. |
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