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Tink
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:18 pm Post subject: Is this really awful as a wedding gift?

A couple I barely know invited me to a wedding. I do know they are rather poor, and starting out an entirely new household. I am rather poor and have been unemployed for quite sometime.On the bridal registry there were several sets of luxury sheet sets.Someone gave me one of those sets this spring - I had them on the bed for a week, and decided that "ivory" was simply too yellow for my tastes. I washed them, put them in the closet and forgot about them.If I were to wash them, go over them with a fine toothed comb for lint, press them very well, tie them with ribbons, place them in a wicker gift basket, and have the thing shrink wrapped would it be so awful to give as a gift?Let me know what you think - I would like to give them something they requested, but couldn't afford it otherwise.

Lyn G.
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:23 pm Post subject:

Generally, I'd say.. no. But, I mean... if you took them somewhere to be cleaned and pressed (if your budget can afford it) -- made it a little more sanitary, I don't see anything terribly wrong with it. On paper it sounds a little dirty, but if it's all you can afford, I mean.. people shop at thrift stores all the time. So..

Mel
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:26 pm Post subject:

Well, it's kindof gross, since you slept in them. So it's your own conscience that will be bothering you. I wouldn't do it. There are other options. You don't absolutely have to give them something on the registry. Find something within your budget, get it and don't worry about it. I liked your gift basket idea, so maybe you could put newly purchased items that aren't very expensive, in a fancy basket? hand towels? fancy soaps?

Sayura-chan
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject:

No, that doesn't seem too horrible...just don't tell them you used them or that they've been used-period. Good luck!

Einstein
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject:

It's all right.

♥ღRavens Destiny♥�
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject:

I also would say no, however I can understand your dilemma. I hate to say it, but what they dont know wont hurt them. Just don't tell to many people. Things have a way of getting around when you dont want some one to know something.

brwneyes
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:29 pm Post subject:

I do not think giving someone your old used sheets, no matter how clean you made them, is a good idea.If you can't afford anything on their wedding registry, give them cash or a gift card to the store in the amount you can afford.Good luck.

Judy B
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:33 pm Post subject:

HiNot quite the right thing to do but if you can't use them then it would best to go to someone who needs them most.I suppose you should really make the effort and have them professionally dry cleaned and pressed properly and do what you said you thought of doing.Maybe throw in a couple of matching towels and hand towels also?Cya:)

girlegyrl
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:34 pm Post subject:

Very tacky are you out of your mind don't do that just simply give them a card and wish them well on their day

Noahs momma
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:53 pm Post subject:

Please don't give them used sheets. I mean is it something you would want as a gift? You don't have to bring a gift to the wedding, believe me no one is going to look down on you if you show up without a gift. But please leave the sheets at home.

Cheshirecat
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:04 am Post subject:

if they look brand new, and nobody knows then you should be fine! but anyway i think the bride and groom would be greatful for such a nice gift even if it was used, considering the finacial situation of you and them. <3

janiece1922
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:35 am Post subject:

I'm sure they wouldn't appreciate that but I actually think its a great idea just make sure nobody knows your little secret lol

LuXy In Love!
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 2:36 am Post subject:

Give them something small from their registry or a nice card instead. If they know you and your situation, then they should understand. Don't risk giving them something used or re-gifting. I got something re-gifted to me once about 4 months after I gave it to the person. It hurt my feelings at the time and I never forgot it!

Mutchkin
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 3:17 am Post subject:

Now what you can do is contact them and say that you saw these sheets on their registration and you got an exact (or close to it) and only had it on your bed once.You can ask if they would like to have them in case they don't get those from anyone else as a gift. After all, it was a gift to you and you are not out of a loss, yet you are honest with them at the same time.In the mean time, you can get them something that is in your financial means as a small secondary gift for the wedding.

Valerie N
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 3:46 am Post subject:

If you don't have the original packaging, they'll know it was used.

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