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stevenrabrams
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 Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:35 pm Post subject: Monetary Wedding Gifts How much to give ? |
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| As divorced father of the groom. |
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TTC # 1 wishing you all l
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Whatever is going to feel comfortable with you, but not put you into debt. If you can afford a $50 or $100 go with that, but you are not obligated to give anymore than you can afford. |
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mom of 3 boys
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: |
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| You are the father of the groom but divorced from his mother?I would say $100? |
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cfnielson530
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:55 pm Post subject: |
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| That's going to depend. If you helped pay for the wedding, you shouldn't feel obligated to give them anything monetarily unless you want to. I never expected anything from my parents or my inlaws when my husband and I married. However, if they paid for their own wedding or another party paid, I would say $100....less if you can't swing that (I know times are tight on a lot of people right now, including me!)...but if you can afford more, definitely pitch in more! If you don't feel like money is appropriate, maybe offer up the plane tickets for a honeymoon or something along those lines. |
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riversconfluence
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| If it were me, and money was not a huge problem, and you are not contributing to the cost of the wedding, I would pick something nice and within your budget off of the registry, and put a gift card or a check in the card on the present. You could say in the card that the money is for whatever they want to use it for, the things they did not receive from the registry, or anything else. I would make the total of the gifts at least $100, + the cost of the Hallmark card and the wrapping. I would probably say though that $200-$250 would be nicer, more if you are well off. Especially if you were in your son's life for awhile before the divorce, or had visitation rights, or partial custody. If you are gift choosing impaired, just a nice gift card, one of the one's you can spend anywhere, in a nice Hallmark card would be fine. and if you are gift wrap impaired, the store you get the present at will probably wrap it for a price, and there is always gift bags with some tissue paper stuffed neatly in the top. |
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Moundace10
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:30 pm Post subject: |
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| I very much agree that you are not obligated to give more than you can afford. If they love you, which they surely do, they would simply be happy with your presence. My parents (who are decently well off) paid for the wedding (around 10K) and gave us $1500.00 (which I did NOT expect). If you're helping pay for the wedding, and well off, I would say $500 - 1,000 would be more than enough. His parents (who have five children and like...8 grandchildren) are doing fine, but not quite as well off as my family. They paid for a couple of things for the wedding (around $300 for some of the tuxes, cake cutter, unity candle, embossed napkins, other things here and there) gave us $500.00 to spend on whatever we wanted. If you're not quite as well off, but still doing fine, I would say $200 - 300. When you're first married, you'll take whatever you can get, trust me!! |
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