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oh what a wonderful world
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 Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 1:47 pm Post subject: gifts for a couple's shower and wedding? |
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| I'm planning on going to both. Do I need to give gifts at both? I wanted to give them one big gift at the wedding. I don't want to give two dinky presents. |
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torskie
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 1:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Bring a really nice gift to the shower. Then wrap a really sleazy lingerie, fur lined handcuffs and multicolered rubbers for the wedding. When they open it in public, it is a scream. |
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Kitty
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 1:57 pm Post subject: |
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| I wouldn't go to the shower empty handed. In the past I have given a nice gift at the shower, and left a card at the wedding. No one will notice at the wedding if you didn't leave a gift. Or you could do something simple for the shower - like a gift card - and then leave a nice gift at the wedding. No one expects you to go huge for both. |
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chocolatelover
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 2:00 pm Post subject: |
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| If you want my truly honest opinion, I think this couple should stop being sleaze-balls. A "couple's shower" AND a wedding. If they had any kind of class they would request that their guests choose either one or the other occassion to bring a gift. Sounds to me like they're after double gifts. And that is pretty crappy. |
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Mike S
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 2:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Commonly, the wedding gift is similar/slightly greater in value to the cost of the meal for you and your guest, and usually is simply a card & cash, card & gift card, or item off of a gift registry. The wedding shower gift is where, if you know the person well enough, you would spend your money on something special for the couple or for their house etc. This way the couple can recognize from whom the gift came from, as supposed to just having a mess of gifts at the wedding. If you wanted to get a big gift, give it at the shower that way it will be remembered. Then a gift card at the wedding will be sufficient. |
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aly
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 2:47 pm Post subject: |
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| I think you should bring a small gift to the shower, it wouldnt be right to go with nothing. If you are close to the bride perhaps you could just bring a card telling them your gift will be at the wedding because it is larger.. or something like that.. just something so she knows you weren't just rude and didnt bring anything. |
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Brown eyed girl
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 2:52 pm Post subject: |
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| give a small, less expensive gift for the shower and a more expensive gift for the wedding present. |
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riversconfluence
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 3:54 pm Post subject: |
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| Well the purpose of a shower is to shower gifts, but it is also a party, and gifts are optional to a party. You should do what your budget says to do. If presents are being opened at the shower, give the big present there, and take a card, or a small gift card or sum of money to the wedding.Your friends know you, and your budget. If they are expecting huge expensive presents for both, then they are wrong to do so.I rebel against all the present giving before the wedding. The engagement party, the showers, the bachelor party, the wedding, the house warming, apartment warming gift. Too much gift giving. In the old days, the engagement party was no presents, or it was a keepsake, small useful to the wedding gift. No bachelor party gifts, and people who went to more than one shower gave one gift, or spread out the money between showers. And if there was no house, there was no house warming party. A party for a rented apartment wasn't done. And the presents for a housewarming were nice cute helpful inexpensive I have a house and I'm sharing my knowlege kind of gifts. Cookbooks, a compilation of one's tried and true recipes, tea towels, a bottle of booze, a pretty candle, like that.If it were me, and I had a limited budget, I would bring a nice present to the shower, and take a card with $20 or $25 bucks in it to the wedding . I would carefully shop for the shower present, and take advantage of sales to get what they want. One wedding, the bride asked for a spice rack. It was expensive. I went to the store to pick out a present, and there it was, for almost half price. They never knew I got it on sale, and was able to get them something really nice, for within my budget. I did not go to the wedding. Otherwise, they would have got a $25-$35 gift certificate to the store.Hope something here helps out. |
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Krissi
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 5:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Generally, I tend to spend more money on the shower gift. I usually give a large gift for the shower and just a card with money for the wedding. But, you should not show up to the shower empty handed. If you would rather give the large gift at the wedding, then find something small for the shower, like a picture frame or vase. But, if you are concerned about your gift looking "dinky," I would buy the larger gift for the shower, because those are opened in front of other guests. Most likely, the wedding gifts will be opened in private, unless they are having a Sunday Brunch the day after. |
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berry
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| Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 4:28 am Post subject: |
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| Actually the shower is the time for giving the "wedding" gift. In this sense, there should be no "shower" gift. |
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morrigansstar
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| Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 10:01 am Post subject: |
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| For the shower i gave them bath towels (as per the registry) and for the wedding i gave them a gift card for where they were registered.It was an away wedding too and all the guests paid their own way. |
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