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Joe
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 Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 7:51 am Post subject: Serve wine guests brought, or your own? |
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| I always wondered about this.My wife's an amateur chef, and when we have people over for dinner, she usually plans and cooks elaborate multi-course and phenomenal meals. And she carefully considers the wine that goes best with the meal.When guests come over and bring wine, I never know whether to just say thank you and store the wine for future use or they expect us to serve it as part of the meal. Because maybe it's their favorite wine and they don't like the wine my wife picked?I always feel like I'm being rude sticking with our wine.My wife wouldn't be offended or anything, she knows everyone has different tastes. So usually I end up serving their wine too.I've simply asked guests, "Would you like me to open the wine you brought too?" but they always politely respond, "No." I don't know if they are just being nice or genuinely consider their wine a gift for our later enjoyment.What's the proper etiquette? |
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Jacqueline M
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:00 am Post subject: |
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| If it were me, I would serve both wines. I know that if I were the guest, I would want the host to serve whatever wine I bought. |
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chris
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:05 am Post subject: |
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| i think that you are doing it right by having both wines out. that will give the guests options and you won't offend anyone. not too many people understand what wines bring out the best taste of the meal and you are right everyone does have their own taste in wines. this way everyone wins |
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DrD
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:06 am Post subject: |
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| The simple answer is that the wine is a gift for the hosts to open at their leisure. If you decide to open it while the guests are present but wine does not go with the food, then open it before or after the meal. The correct etiquette for a guest who expects their wine to be opened at the meal is for the GUEST to consult the host(ess) in advance about what wine to bring. Otherwise, you are under no obligation to open it and it should not be expected. |
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spadezgurl22
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:07 am Post subject: |
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| if i brought the wine usually its soomething i prefer to drink or somethign i'd recommend for my fellow guests to try. i would say def offer it, but if they decline it might just be as a token of theiir appreciation and it is not necesary to serve both. if they wanted you to serve it they would say yes. so dont feel bad. sometimes i enjoy other peoples recommended palate. |
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Victoria p
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:08 am Post subject: |
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| I would serve all the wine. This way your guests are not insulted and the wine your wife has chosen will add a nice touch to the evening. |
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twinkyz4life
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:08 am Post subject: |
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| The proper thing to do is to use your own wine. When you receive wine from a guest, tell them thank you and that you'll love to use it another time. |
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Emmy
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 8:15 am Post subject: |
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The wine brought by your guests is a gift for you. If you choose to open it, you certainly may, but you are under no obligation to do so. It's just a very traditional way of thanking you for sharing your evening with them. Same if they bring chocolates, you don't have to serve them, you can eat them by yourself later.  |
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chefgrille
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 9:10 am Post subject: |
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| It's very good of you to ask them if they'd like it opened. The "no" you get means it's a gift for you. When I ask guest that, they usually elaborate with "You save this for a special occasion" or "This will keep for a while and be better next year!". So, you've been doing the right thing. Anyone who wants their own gift of wine opened usually means they just want half the bottle. |
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