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i will bring my gf to my coworker's wedding, should i buy a more expensive wedding gift?

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MoniJ
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Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:15 pm Post subject: i will bring my gf to my coworker's wedding, should i buy a more expensive wedding gift?

I am invited to my coworker's wedding and I can bring a guest with me. I'm planning to take my gf. My gf has never met my coworker before. Since she's going, do I have to buy a more expensive wedding since two of us are going to the wedding and having food there? my gf's name is not on the invitation, so do i have to add her name on the wedding gift?

szberi
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:19 pm Post subject:

Absolutely! You must present the couple with a gift that reflects 2 people instead of one (generally, $100 per person), it's only fair. You don't have to add her name, but it would be nice. If it was me, I'd want my name on the card too!

sarahcatster
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:20 pm Post subject:

I think you do need to buy a more expensive gift. The bride and groom are now paying for both of you to eat and drink, and it is appropriate that they are reciprocated for that. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I think it is the right thing to do!!

Goddess of Laundry
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:20 pm Post subject:

As crass as it seems, consider the wedding present as paying for the dinner. That is the best way of figuring out how much to pay for the gift. So obviously, if there are two of you...it will be double the price!

Modern Manners
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Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:20 pm Post subject:

Yes, you should bring a more expensive gift b/c as you said you will both be eating- I assume you rsvp'd for both.And yes put both your names on the gift.

VickyPollard
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:26 pm Post subject:

To sound redundant, I agree with the others. I think it is good etiquette to buy a more expensive gift. I think putting her name on the gift is really up to you. How long have you two been together? If you really feel it is from both of you, then put both, but since she really does not know the coworker, you might be better off saying from just you.

gileswench
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Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:36 pm Post subject:

No, you do not have to give a more expensive gift. You give, as you always should, the nicest gift you can easily afford to give. What that might be is between you and your bank account.The cost of food to the bride and groom doesn't enter into the equation at all. They are the ones who chose to throw the party. They are the ones who decided how much they were spending on it. It would be the height of rudeness for you to speculate on what that price might be or for them to expect the wedding gifts to somehow recoup that investment. Your girlfriend is welcome. That's the only thing that matters in this regard.If your girlfriend had nothing to do with choosing the gift you are giving and is not well known to the couple, there's no need to add her name to the card. If she helped pick it out or pay for it, though, it would be only right to include her name.

ventity325
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:55 pm Post subject:

I would definitly put her name on the gift. You should go with a gift that you represent the two of you. Generally you would purchase a gift that is the price of your meals and then some so that it actually is a gift as opposed to you just paying for your meals.

shootsamshoot
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 6:55 pm Post subject:

I agree with giles. You shouldn't buy a more expensive gift. If the invitation said you could bring a guest, than they have already prepared for enough food to be there. Plus, you're not the only guest that has probably been allowed to bring another person! I would add her name onto the gift that you're planning to give. Did you already buy them a gift? If not, than bring your girlfriend along to pick one!

mamanana9
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:32 pm Post subject:

nope get what you can afford.i totally agree with the answer on the bride and groom decided to go all out on food and drink.so why should the guest have to buy expensive gifts to equal cost of food.they didnt tell them to go to all that expense

Seashell
Yahoo User

Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 10:11 pm Post subject:

No you do not have to buy a more expensive gift. You do not have to include her name on the gift either. If she is a long time girlfriend I would include her out of respect.

Unknown
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 12:03 am Post subject:

Tradition is that you are allowed to bring a guest if the invitation says (say your name is Peter Smith) :Mr. Peter Smith & GuestThen you are allowed to bring 1 guest. If the invitation has no "& guest" then NO you cant bring a guest.And no they DO NOT CARE what your guest's name is. Nor do they want to know on the RSVP card. They will seat you as "Mr. Peter Smith & Guest" Your GF's name for the purposes of organizing the wedding is "Guest". Accept it. It is her name now for seating and meal selection. Hence tradition.Yes bring a nice gift. Either buy something that cost a great deal on their wedding registry OR write a check for a large amount (whatever you can afford.) I would say at least a check for $150 or more. Because remember your meal probably cost around 80 to 120 dollars. So the larger the check you write the more appreciated it will be after they are paying the bill for you to eat.But you dont need to give them more than you can afford (a bounced check would be worse than a small gift).

Lydia
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 5:09 am Post subject:

No, just take along the gift you had planned. And no, her name doesn't go on the wedding gift.

Lisa
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 7:10 am Post subject:

Yes! Of course all gifts are welcomed, but technically, and its much more appreciated, you should pay for each plate. Why not add her name, it would make her feel special and then the bride and groom can thank her too!

RowerGirl
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 7:52 am Post subject:

Yes! The gift should be from both of you and should probably be a bit more expensive because you're both attending. I went to my bf's colleague's wedding last year (never met him or his wife) and we both put money towards the gift and signed the card with both our names.

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