Should I give a wedding gift?
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Himiko
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 Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 11:31 am Post subject: |
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| Not obligated, but you can send a nice card with a gift card to somewhere you know they might like to shop. |
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Blue Rose
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 11:32 am Post subject: |
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| It's not a matter of obligation. The right thing to do is give a card and some kind of gift, wheter it's money or a gift card, prior to the wedding, as a token of reciprocated friendship. I got married in Las Vegas and didn't invite anyone and my co-workers all gave me cards & gifts before I left, and one after I returned "just in case I didn't go through with it". |
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jen
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 11:32 am Post subject: |
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| youre not obligated but something small like a picture frame and a nice card would show her that youre happy for her. if she didnt invite you but invited tons of other friends, then i would think twice about buying a gift, but since she didnt invite you for the sole reason that youre not family, its a different story. i wouldnt spend a ton of money, but something small like the frame or maybe a gift certificate for the two of them to go to dinner somewhere nice. |
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Lizzy-tish
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 11:33 am Post subject: |
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| Well what do you think the kindest thing would be that you could do?Of course you GIVE her a gift, she gave you one at your wedding. What kind of question is this? Supposedly she is a ' friend', it doesn't have to be a huge amount , especially if it's a small wedding, the price of the meal plus 20 percent. Which could run you around 100-120 bucks.Geeeez were you raised in a barn. |
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Victoria M
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 11:42 am Post subject: |
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| Of course not. Receiving a gift from someone else does not obligate you to give a gift back. I would do something small, though. |
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SugarFrog46
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 11:45 am Post subject: |
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| I think unless you're a part of the wedding stuff in some way, such as you were invited to the bachelorette party, or helped her shop for flowers or something, I wouldn't worry about it. But if it will make you feel better, by all means. Just don't go overboard. I think I a nice wedding card that you bring into work or send in the mail is perfectly fine. If you want, throw in a gift certificate because it's impersonal like the gift she gave you and it's a no-commitment type gift. This might sound ridiculous but it's the overprotective mother in me, just make sure you have the upper hand and don't pick out something that you would love to get yourself at your own wedding. What I mean is, don't give her anything sentimental, because she's not thinking about you right now. I know how emotional weddings can be. Give her something nice and wedding appropriate, but not sentimental. It hurts to not be included whether no one else in the office is or not, because it's a special event in someone's life and we're all like that guy in The Wedding Singer who says all he really wants is for someone to hold him and tell him that everything's going to be okay...perhaps a poor example...anyway, she probably has perfectly good personal or financial reasons for having a small wedding but it still means you're out of the deal so find a great expensive card with a fabric wedding dress and mini pearls on the front, drop it off at her desk with a smile, and tell her you're really excited for her and you can't wait to see pictures of her gown! In situations like these, I find it easier to mother someone rather than be their friend...you're giving the check because you care about them as a person, not because you're expecting to hang out with them next Friday night. |
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immsbally
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 12:38 pm Post subject: |
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| I do not believe that you are obligated to give a gift if you were not invited to the wedding where the gift would normally be received. After saying that, however, many people who have small (family only) type wedding services tend to have receptions later on to celebrate their union in a more relaxed type atmosphere with their friends. If this becomes the reality in your situation, then I think at that time that a gift would be appropriate. I do not believe that you should worry about the gift costing more or less than the amount of money you received at your wedding. You have to put a lot more thought into a gift, than you do into writing a check and time is worth money. Good luck to you. |
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berry
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 5:25 am Post subject: |
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| Since you are good friends, you could give her a gift, but one that costs less than what she gave you. |
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Gia
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hellenwashington
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:56 am Post subject: |
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| I think you should give her a gift. Try here and good luck! |
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pj
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| Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 6:51 am Post subject: |
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| If you are not invited, you are not expected to give a gift. However, if this is a person you know and would like to give a gift, feel free to do so. What you give is up to you. A gift is a gift and should not be monitored by its monetary value. |
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