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How would I send my cousin a wedding gift if I don't even have her contact info?

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Author Message I Hate my haters Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:24 am    Post subject: How would I send my cousin a wedding gift if I don't even have her contact info? I wrote a few times on here about the cousin that purposely invited every sibling in my family except me to her wedding. I feel hurt & embarrassed, esp since I've never done anything wrong to her. A few people responded that I should get her a gift or card, send my congratulations to her, to prove that I'm the bigger person while also making her feel guilty for doing such an a-hole move.That might be a decent idea, but how would I send it to her when I don't know where she lives?? I could ask my aunt or our mutual grandmother, but I highly doubt they'd give it to me. My aunt is very catty, & had a long "cold war" w/ my mom in the past(my mom's dead now by the way). My grandmother is the one that told my dad that I was purposely not invited, & tried to convince my dad to keep the wedding secret from me simply so I wouldn't complain! I think them giving me her new address would be the LAST thing they'd do!So now what? I guess sending a gift/card isn't a good idea yet? What is?TO Sylvia: Thanks for your kind words, but she no longer has a wedding registry. Her wedding was months ago. Also, I'd have no way of finding out where even a registry is, since I'd have to go thru my grandmother to find that out, & I highly doubt my grandmother would tell me if she's the one that kept it hidden from me. Back to top sylvia Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:30 am    Post subject: I commend you highly for wanting to send a gift, despite her oversight. It's good to know there are nice people left out there!!I would check around and see if she has a registry - I'm sure that your mom has her registry info, or you could check the "obvious" registry places online (Target, Linens & Things, Bed Bath & Beyond, Macy's, Pottery Barn, etc.), find a gift and order it on line and have it shipped. There should be a shipping address listed as a preference - even if it's your aunt's house, or even her future in-law's. Good luck with what appears to be such a bewildering experience! I hope everything works out for you!!!Extra Edit: If it's of any help, most places will keep a registry open for a year after the wedding date - so all may not be lost!Otherwise, you can always send a card to her in care of your aunt. Back to top teresathegreat Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:31 am    Post subject: So you're not sending her the gift/card out of any positive feeling or wish to reconciliate, but just to stick your tongue out at her and say "neener-neener-neener, I'm nicer than you"?That doesn't make you a better person, dear, it's still a petty and passive-aggressive move. Bad for your karma.Just admit that your cousin is a biyatch, be glad you're not like her, and let it go! Back to top another_answer_girl Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:31 am    Post subject: ask your siblings or cousins. is she registered on weddingchannel.com? they'll send the present to her at the address she requested.but if she didn't invite you, save your money! buy yourself something instead! don't waste your money on her. Back to top Cory C Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:31 am    Post subject: I agree, check with the family about a registry and let the store ship it to her. Back to top tpurtygrl Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:32 am    Post subject: Was your dad invited? He would have the address or maybe he could get it from your grandmother. Also check if she's registered anywhere they would have the address on file and you can look her up by name. Congrats on being a bigger person Back to top just_another_dummy Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:33 am    Post subject: Try whitepages.com to get her address. Back to top lindseysays... Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:34 am    Post subject: Sending her a gift just to make her feel like crap doesn't make you the better person at all. It makes you spiteful and deceitful.Why make her feel like crap? It sounds like grandma pushed her into not inviting you. You need to let it go and move on. Holding on to a grudge this tight will only make you unhappy. Back to top GRUNT Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:35 am    Post subject: SEND IT TO SANTA !!!! Back to top Stacia T Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:36 am    Post subject: I agree with teresathegreat and lindseysays. Only send a card/gift if you can honestly find it in your heart to let it go. The card/gift should be sent only to offer your congratulations and best wishes. Sending a gift just to prove a point is wrong. Back to top butterflydiva829 Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:39 am    Post subject: I thought your work sent her flood insurance....get her address from the computers. Back to top its about time Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:42 am    Post subject: Your last question said that you got joy out of knowing that she lived in a flood zone...so obivously you have an idea of where she lives if not exactly. By sending her a gift with a poor attitude behind it, you're no better than her. If you really want to send her a gift, send it to your aunt or grandmother and have them pass it on...but don't do it until you can lose your attitude. Back to top Sugar_Bliss Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:47 am    Post subject: JUST chalk to the game! Back to top pspoptart Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:49 am    Post subject: As a bride I wouldn't want your gifts since it comes from a place of anger and bitterness. So she didn't invite you to her wedding months ago...WHO FREAKING CARES! I mean really....if this is your biggest problem you should be jumping for joy that your life is giong so well. Stop posting stupid questions about the situation and grow up and get over it. What are you like 10? If this is how childish you act no wonder she didn't want you at her wedding. Back to top no_frills Yahoo User Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 11:51 am    Post subject: If they do not have the courtesy to send you a wedding announcement after the wedding I would not worry about a gift. Back to top

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