Wedding lists - good or bad?
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rainy-h
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 Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:01 am Post subject: |
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| I think they're vile! I never buy off wedding lists - a present is a present, not a demand, and the fact that most people don't need household items any more as they have already set up home makes them even more cheeky- at least in the past you were contributing to what a couple needed rather than just whatever new stuff took their fancy. And I don't think you're alone at all, me and a lot of my friends have been to many weddings in the past few years, and I've never heard anyone have anything good to say about wedding lists. Some people use them because they're too lazy to shop and think or they've left it too late, but they still bitch about them!Hx |
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luscious_linz
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:02 am Post subject: |
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| I totally agree with you!I personally think it's pretty rude telling people what to get you! And it's much more exciting knowing that people are going to go out and think about it and look for it themselves! |
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Sungoddess
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:02 am Post subject: |
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| Wedding lists are great if guests are clueless as to what to buy the couple but if you have a special gift in mind then go for it. It is not set in stone that the gift should be from the list and will be a lovely surprise if something different.It is there if you choose to use it but any gift will surely be gratefully accepted. |
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Paul M
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:02 am Post subject: |
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| Weddings lists are only good for giving people ideas... maybe it should be renamed a "idea list". I hate it when people spend a day in somewhere like debenhams and decide what they want, prices and all... then hand them out to their friends. Presents are a way of congratulating people, they shouldn't be told "choose one off here and buy it for us!" That's just wrong |
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lost
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:03 am Post subject: |
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| I hate wedding lists and birthday lists! Until a few years ago, I was always given a list for my nephews birthday and it really peed me off. Since then, I have always ignored the list and given him money (much appreciated). I agree with you. A present that is bought with the person/persons at heart is the best, especially a friend's wedding. Have a lovely time and buy them what YOU want. |
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lindseysays...
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:16 am Post subject: |
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| Wedding list? Is that the same thing as a wedding registry? |
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Lil Cat
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:34 am Post subject: |
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| I'm with you, they completley take the imagination out of a gift, and it feels like you're buying a gift for the sake of it, not because you want your gift to make them happy. No way would I have one. |
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Lydia
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:50 am Post subject: |
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| I think along the lines you do. We didn't have a registry for our wedding, and totally appreciated any gifts we were fortunate enough to get! For others' weddings, we don't buy from the registry, but choose personally a gift suited to the couple. |
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xenonvalkyrie
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:55 am Post subject: |
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| I didn't have a wedding list. It is just another thing to stress over! I am sue your friend will appreciate your gift. Have a good time! |
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Katie
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:07 am Post subject: |
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| I don't think it is really telling you what to get, maybe just suggestions of what they need or want. I mean ultimately the majority of people get the bride and groom whatever they think they need anyway. |
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sylvia
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:12 am Post subject: |
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| I'll take my thumbs-down for this one, but personally, I LIKE the idea of the registry/list!! It all depends on how you look at them....They are certainly not a mandated shopping list, but rather, they're a starting point to help me pick exactly the right gift.For one, I know that if I decide to purchase from the list, I am buying the couple something that they want/need/will use. After all, they picked it out!! (Please note, a proper registry should contain items at all price points, to accommodate anyone's budget).If, however, I want to give a personal gift, that's also more than acceptable! However, again, looking at their registry/list gives me an idea of their decorating tastes (contemporary, traditional, etc.), and the color scheme that they've chosen in their new home. This way, if I DO choose a personal gift, I can incorporate their tastes/preferences into whatever I choose. I know a lot of people disagree with this thought process, but personally, I'd rather have an idea of what the couple would like, versus just buying them something they may or may not need/want/use. |
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JM
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 9:31 am Post subject: |
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| wedding registries are fine. You are giving them a gift. You want that gift to be useful to them. How is it useful if they get 4 toasters? You don't have to get what is on the registry. A nice alternative is money. They can use it for whatever they want. |
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vanessa s
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 9:32 am Post subject: |
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| wedding lists are ok, some people aren't as good at buying presents than others and they would rather get something the couple want than give them something they will never use. You dont have to buy off the wedding list if you dont want to. When I got married we told everyone who wanted to buy gifts to give us vouchers and we bought what we wanted, then in each thank you card we told people what we got with their vouchers and it worked well. Also a wedding is a very expensive day and everyone gets a free slap up meal and wine so why shouldnt the couple get something back eh? |
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lilstarr
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 9:47 am Post subject: |
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| i've been to two weddings this year, both had wedding lists and I ignored both of them!! If you're comfortable buying from the list then do, if not then don't. lists from places like John Lewis I find terrible as they gifts are all so expensive, and if you want to spend,say, £20 on the couple you end up buying something like a bloody teatowel it's ridiculous. Needless to say I bought nothing from that list. I do agree though that the gifts you buy might not be what the couple wanted (I knew both couples very well and know what I bought was appropriate and something they each liked). E.g. if you don't know someone well and are invited to their wedding, do you still make a decision as to what you buy them? I'd rather buy a gift that someone is going to like and use than something that's going to be chucked in the drawer and forgotten about! |
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HELENe
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| Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 10:55 am Post subject: |
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| i totally agree with you, |
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