Who else has a baby born by christmas and people give one gift, happy birthday merry christmas?
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elle
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 Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:26 pm Post subject: Who else has a baby born by christmas and people give one gift, happy birthday merry christmas? |
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| My son was born December 22. I know Christmas is a little ways away, but his first and second birthday were upsetting. He got from his dads side of the family one gift that was for birthday and christmas, and then some of his uncles went together and got him one gift. My family makes sure that he has a birthday gift and christmas gift. I dont want him to not feel as loved when he sees his cousin get alot for christmas and her birthday. When I asked my mother-in-law about it she said she was tight around that time. We spend alot of money to make sure he gets birthday and Christmas, it has caused a huge problem for us on the one side of the family. Did your children ever feel left out, or am I worry about it for nothing?Thanks for all that answered, money is not what I care about, I caould care less if it was a box of crayons or a toy from the dollar store. I just cant stand that they go all out for one grandchild and not the other. He really does not need more toys we over do that our selves, I am just trying to get them to give him a card or make his day feel more special to him, since they do it for his only cousin. |
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ashbaby469556
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:31 pm Post subject: |
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| It is upsetting for them but money isn't everything. Do they love him equally? That is really all that matters. |
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Rayne
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:31 pm Post subject: |
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| My birthday is 11 days after Christmas and I got a lot of "this is Christmas and bday gifts" when I was younger. That didn't bother me too much because my family always made my birthday a special day all about me. That is what is important, knowing you are special and loved, not how much is spent on gifts. |
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Emily
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:34 pm Post subject: |
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| Yeah-thats so hard. My nephew was born on Christmas day so he always got the same thing! Yeah-he did feel left out and I think he still does-he is 22! Its really hard on them. I would have a birthday party for him several days before his birthday. Hopefully they will show up with a gift. You could also sneak a couple of extra gift bags of gifts in the mix-they usually don't remember who got what when they are young anyway. You could even tell your mother in law you got a gift and put her name on it so he wouldnt feel bad. yeah-$$ is tight but maybe she will get the hint and start buying presents early. I have already started my Christmas shopping (not to toot my own horn-just saying) |
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lorinhl
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:40 pm Post subject: |
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| My birthday is also December 22 and this has happened to me often as well. I still like being born near Christmas and wouldn't change it. I would speak to your family and tell them that it's not fair to punish him because of the date of his birth.Since birthdays and holidays don't sneak up on you, you know many months in advance--why not buy a gift for his birthday in the summer, wrap it up and store it until his big day.Of course presents don't mean everything, but when you're young it's hard to separate the gift and the intention, etc. If they are unwilling, tell them that you will provide a gift from them--that bit of a guilt trip may do the trick.I know others that choose to celebrate at another time of year. That's not for me, but if you'd rather have a pool party in July, with just a small cake and ice cream party in December that's an option too.Your son has a great birthday, the cusp of two signs Sag and Cap and he'll have many years to know he was loved by all. Nonetheless, I understand your concern.Good luck! |
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cameranhand
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:47 pm Post subject: |
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| I understand what you are saying, My hubby's birthday is December 21 and he gets Christmas and Birthday gifts separate. Our wedding Anniversary is Valentine's Day, and we get separate gifts to celebrate each different and separate occasion. Since, a birthday is always on the same date and so is Christmas, to say that money is tight is a weak answer.There's time to save a couple of dollars for gifts for both days.Its not that hard to get a gift for Christmas and then one for the baby's birthday....However, to think that the lack of two gifts is an indication of how much someone loves your child, then I don't agree with that fully.I know what you mean and how you are feeling, but most people aren't going to be as excited about days and meanings for your child as you are... if that makes any sense...Just keep the days separate in your household, and don't worry about what the others do.A child will know who loves him by how he is treated and how people react when he walks into a room (like if they're faces light up or if they are ignored) and not by the number of gifts.Hope that helps you and have a great day |
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Angelina N
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:49 pm Post subject: |
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| My twins are born on Valentines Day, so people are always going out to eat so if I have a party they can't go, spending money on loved one gifts and my kids get crap. I usually make up the difference, I learned you can't depend on people.PS: My in-laws spent all their time buying everything for my sister-inlaws kids and ignored mine, so I understand |
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♥☼Chelsea☼♥
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:54 pm Post subject: |
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| My birthday is Dec. 23. I almost always get one gift for both my birthday and christmas. Even my fiance does this. I'm 19 now so I am used to it, but when I was younger it had a huge effect on me. I was always upset because when it was my sisters birthday, she got tons of stuff/clothes. She always had more. But my parents started buying me one present on her birthday so i wouldn't feel left out. And when it came time for my birthday again they would splurge to make my birthday a good one since my family only bought me one gift for both. So what I'm getting at is yes, it did make me feel left out. |
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gussie
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:55 pm Post subject: |
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| I have a niece whose birthday falls on the 23 of December.I think the children feel shortchanged because they do get the "two-for-one "present.Have your husband suggest that your in-laws could set aside a little money before Christmas so they would have the funds for a separate gift.It wouldn't be so bad if the other grandchildren got a two-for-one present but I'm sure this is not the case.I think in the child's eye it may make them feel less special on their birthday.I'm pretty certain kids compare notes on these things and it is just hurtful whether intentional or not.Just my opinion. My parents had children's birthdays on the 2,10 and 12 of January and no one had two-for-one gifts.Take care. |
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Kagome
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 2:04 pm Post subject: |
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| My mother was born two days before Christmas. She always tells me stories about how she always got the one gift that was supposed to be for birthday AND christmas. She always mentioned how she felt disappointed that her birthday and christmas couldn't be celebrated seperately instead of them being thrown together. I always make sure that she gets seperate presents for her birthday and for christmas. She wasn't born on christmas, so why should the two be thrown together? |
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dolphin mama
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| Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 3:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Both of my children are on either side of Christmas- one two weeks before and the other is two weeks after (I know, not great planning ahead...). We always make sure that they each have their own party, and they each receive their own gifts separate from their Christmas gifts. Another way we have a little extra fun is having a "half-birthday" party in July. We invite their friends and have a little swim party to celebrate their half-birthdays, at a time when others have a little more to go around. As you said, it is not about how much people spend, but the effort to make the child feel special. I also begin shopping for Christmas and Birthday presents at the end of August, so the impact isn't as hard (in our family, we have 4 birthdays within a month of Christmas, so it can get expensive, even if you just buy one thing for each person!). I make sure that we pick one large B-day gift for each child, and two or three small ones, which often go together, such as last year, we got our 3 year old a doll house, and three room sets to go in it. My 8 year old got a Littlest Pet Shop vet set, and a bunch of animals to go in it. I don't think my kids have ever felt that they didn't get their just desserts because they have birthdays so close to one another and Christmas... just try to really make the day different. |
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