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When your nieces and nephews are out of high school, should giving birthday and Christmas gifts stop?

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Author Message patti f Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:04 pm    Post subject: When your nieces and nephews are out of high school, should giving birthday and Christmas gifts stop? My children are 23, 19, and 17 years-old. The only cousins they have on my side of the family are my brother's two little girls aged 2 and 1. My 3 siblings, who are all financially well off, believe they should no longer acknowledge my kids with gifts because they're too old. Is that typically how it goes? Back to top puttputtpink Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:06 pm    Post subject: YOU JUST ASKED THIS! Back to top barthebear Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:10 pm    Post subject: I think that often happens. But not always.Except they should wait until your 17 yr old graduates from high school.The reason being that the children, as adults now, would have a relationship with them based on reciprocity with gifts. That is, they would feel indebted to reciprocate and perhaps couldnt afford or would no longer have the closeness with their aunt/uncle. You can do the same in 17 years though Back to top Viola G Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:11 pm    Post subject: I don't know if it was because of the way I was raised or what but I was brought up to never expect a gift from anyone except my parents. Back to top Tracy J Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:15 pm    Post subject: You should only give a gift if you want to not because you feel an obligation to. Yes they are too old for a birthday gift, but a card is a good idea to mail. It shows that you still remember. Back to top TamBel Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:27 pm    Post subject: there is no rule about it but follow their lead Back to top Sarah C Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:27 pm    Post subject: Skipping Christmas is just too Scrooge-like, but then I have my niece's 20th birthday present in the car now. (It'll be a month or more late, but it's a gift.) The person above is right, however, your kids need to start giving gifts if they expect to stay on the receiving end. $10-$20 is fine for both sides--a paperback of something amusing or non-fiction, informational can be had for less. Back to top corneliusconiferouscocobu Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:32 pm    Post subject: I think you should never stop telling family that you care, and a card ,, with a note , story, or separate signatures, can often mean more than a gift! Back to top Ellen H Yahoo User Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 7:15 pm    Post subject: In my family, it is understood that you only buy gifts for the underage children. At Christmas I put the adult's names (including the "of age" nieces and nephews) in a hat and draw names out for everyone because we all live in different areas. That way everyone is included in the gift giving. We usually stick to under 50 dollars. Everyone buys something small for the kids still in school. This way we only have to buy one larger gift for extended grown ups. We always enjoy this, it saves money, and gift buying time, and there are no hurt feelings. Back to top

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