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Betty
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 Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:47 pm Post subject: Going to ex fiance's sister's wedding - advice? |
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| This is a sticky one.. I am attending the wedding of my ex fiance's sister. His sister and I still communicate, etc, christmas gifts, etc. My son (with said ex fiance) is the ringbearer so I am obligated to attend in any event.I am getting married two weeks after she is, and so far every member of my ex's family has sent me back an RSVP indicating they will not be coming, short, sweet and fairly understandable given the circumstances. Imagine my discomfort showing up to her wedding where all will be attending. Should I pretend nothing is amiss and enjoy the reception, or make a carefully planned exit as soon as etiquette allows?Or should I make up a lame excuse and bow out of it altogether?? |
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Joe G
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Smile and be the bigger person.They will be talking about you, so be prepared to ignore all the BS. |
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Maria
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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I would just feel it out. If you're having fun and everything seems fine (which I'm sure it will be) stay, if not, leave. I don't know why you would send invitations to anyone in your ex's family other than his sister unless you are close with them, but that doesn't mean they will be uncomfortable around you. Congratulations, by the way.  |
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soymissk8
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:54 pm Post subject: |
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| Go.Enjoy the ceremony and then shortly after pictures are taken (I assume your son will be in some) say your thank yous and leave. If your son is young enough to be a ring bearer he probably needs to get to bed early anyway.If you are leaving your son with his dad for the rest of the party, than you can still come and leave after the ceremony. |
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1 Hot Photographer
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:54 pm Post subject: |
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| It will show that you are the bigger person by staying. You have done nothing wrong and therefore do not need to leave. Stay and have fun! Remember, there's a whole slew of guests going on the groom's side of the family that you haven't met yet, maybe you'll meet a NEW guy there that is neutral. |
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Annie Girl
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:54 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree with Joe G. Keep in mind that it is the most important day of this girl's life. I would hope that the family would not stoop so low as to make you feel uncomfortable on this day. Make the day nice for your son as he is in the wedding as well as the bride. Have a good time and more importantly think that in 2 weeks it will be your wedding! |
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Brian
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 5:00 pm Post subject: |
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| I would say- STAY AWAY! Why hurt your ex! This is a family day and you (for what ever reason) are NOT family. It seems that his blood son is invited to be the ring bearer, so you should let him handle your son for the day and STAY AWAY!I would be very upset if this happened to me, and it could cause years of friction between your ex and his sister- your friend. |
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bluegirl6
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Go, hold your head up high and be proud of your little boy.I know it will be an extremely hard day for you but do it for your own pride and for your little boy. He will want his mother there...it will be very tiring for him.Good luck with this. |
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longhornfan1722
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 5:32 pm Post subject: |
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| I chose B) bow out as soon as etiquiette allows! An good luck! |
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maigen_obx
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| Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 5:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Normally I would say don't go since they're his family and he can't not be their family anymore. However, you have a child together and his family is also your child's family. Your child should be a part of and get to know his father's family. Therefore, I think you should go to the wedding and give your son a chance to be with his family. Try to the enjoy the reception as much as possible. It will be awkward, but it's for your son. I'm not sure why you would invite your ex's family to your wedding. It's one thing to take your son to his family's wedding but them coming to yours is just weird. |
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Lydia
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| Posted: Wed Aug 08, 2007 8:55 am Post subject: |
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| I wouldn't go if I were you. Have your son's dad look after him for that day. |
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