Am I rude and shallow or is there something wrong here?
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R. B
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 Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:12 am Post subject: |
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OKAY! I'm the mother of a recent groom and can usually see another side to these questions that brides are asking about their in laws. However, I CAN'T see another side to this one. This is unbelievable! The only thing I can figure out is from relating to a close friend of mine. Her mother-in-law doesn't give gifts, and doesn't really like gifts from other people. She has her "logic" which doesn't make sense to any of the rest of us.  However, she will do special things for them, like taking the entire family to Paris once. So, to your question? It's beats me. But I can only share how my friend has handled it. She simply tells her children that one grandmother enjoys gifts more than the other grandmother. But, they still buy gifts for both grandmothers because she won't distinguish between the two. And after years of this, she says that she doesn't regret the extra trouble to figure out something that will be meaningful to her MIL. Good luck with these people. They just don't see things the way you do. Makes no sense to me either! |
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Sazzy
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:19 am Post subject: |
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| She said "they bought a brand new hummer"not they gave us a new hummer a month later or their old car which was still pretty new!what she says implies that the inlaws bought it for themselfs not that they gave them the hummer!That is very very harsh of them as a gift does not have to be bought! but thats life you have to be the bigger person and try to move on and try to get along! |
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Angela O
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 8:50 am Post subject: |
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| I understand that they bought the Hummer for themselves. Now with that out of the way, who paid for the wedding. If they helped pay for it I see no reason why you should be expecting a gift. Also, gifts are not required when attending a wedding and if the couple should receive a gift they should be grateful.And your in-laws financial situation is none of your business. Sorry. |
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Honeybee
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 10:58 am Post subject: |
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| Yeah, I totally agree with you. I would be hurt too. I mean really, a hummer? And you got nothing. They could have at least given you a blender or something. Something. It's the thought that counts right, but if there's not even a thought... I think your feelings are justified. But you don't want to live that way, being angry all the time with them, so in time, I hope you can get past it. They seem like maybe they're not so easy to talk to, but maybe you can say something to them. It might help put it behind you. Sometimes you just have to shrug your shoulders, shake your head, take a deep breath, and let it go. |
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hitchnj
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 12:01 am Post subject: |
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| I am assuming that they bought themselves the hummer, not you - right?maybe they will offer you a few grand when you get ready to make an offer on a specific house.. but it sounds to me like these people are not interested in sharing their earnings with you until they are dead and buried..btw, the hummer is probably leased and in 2 years they will have another new car b/c they live outside their means and throw money away on renting overpriced vehicles.. |
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Mrs. A
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| Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 10:52 am Post subject: |
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| alright guys, does anyone know how to READ? the in laws did not buy the newlyweds a hummer...they bought themselves a hummer!!! jeez...enough already. |
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