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build_a_better_tomorrow
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 Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 10:35 pm Post subject: Thoughtful gift from someone with little money to spend? |
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| I'm pretty hard up for cash at the moment. My parents and my in-laws are hardly able to take care of their homes anymore. My father-in-law probably hasn't vacuumed or cleaned the bathrooms since his wife died in 2.5 years. His condo is a wreck.My gift to him is to clean his place top to bottom, like his wife kept the place 10 years ago, before she became ill and was unable to take care of anything. He never had any interest in cleaning up after himself. We cleaned for her every 3 months, while she was alive. We've offered in the past and he's said it isn't "that bad". Not only can you smell the stench in the hall, you can smell it outside wafting from the open windows in the summer.We can't afford much and he REALLY needs this. Is this an appropriate gift? We bought him a bus ticket to a senior outing that will have him out for the day next weekend and we plan to clean as a suprise while he's out. Might freak him out? |
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Give me a thumbs up!
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| Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 10:44 pm Post subject: |
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| I think it's a great idea. And why not top it off with something new to put in his house, like a picture or a plant, that way he will always remember your gift to him when he looks at it. |
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jsfnita
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| Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 10:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Awe, that is really nice of you. You know, older people sometimes say the mess doesn't bother them, and in reality, it is hard to get around. You can also put things in place to make it easy for him, like organize things to be easy to find. Stock up on trash bags & cleaning supplies at the $1 store. I think he will really love it. |
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Claire
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| Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 10:52 pm Post subject: |
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| It's a good idea but if you think he would be uncomfortable with you cleaning his condo if he knew, then maybe it isn't such a good idea. I think it's really nice of you, but will your father-in-law feel the same way? It might remind him of his wife, but if he's comfortable talking about her and doing things they used to do together with other people, then it should be okay. It also could make him upset-even if he didn't show it-that you went into his house without permission and cleaned it all. Is he still comfortable with his daughter walking straight into the house or does he prefer for you to knock? If the second one's your answer, I'd say you might want to think of something else. It's a really good idea, but only if you think your in-law would be comfortable with the situation if he knew about it. Just ask yourself these questions: Is he protective of his personal stuff and doesn't like other people to go through his drawers? Do things that remind him of his wife upset him? Is he still comfortable with his daughter and such coming into the house without knocking? Just keep these in mind when you come up with your final decision,okay? |
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