We've been together for over a year, he's making good money, and all i'm getting a bear for Christmas?
|
|
| Author |
Message |
Kristen J
Yahoo User
|
 Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 5:56 pm Post subject: We've been together for over a year, he's making good money, and all i'm getting a bear for Christmas? |
 |
|
| Should I be pissed about this? Last year he got me some good stuff, valentines day I got nothing, my birthday I got nothing, our anniversary nother, and I bought him a 35 dollar hat that he really wanted. Should I be pissed?Btw I didn't get him gifts for those his birthday and our anniversary either BUT only because he didn't want one.he knows that I want things. He has just doesn't want to get me anything better. Plus if i was basing it of materialistic things I would love him and we would have been through a long time ago.I should also let you all know that I don't complain, lie, talk to other guys, what ever he needs I go it, and when he wants something if I feel like he's really been pushing hard to get it then I'll get it for him. He's an amazing guy don't get me wrong. But he knows he can afford what I want he just wants to take the cheap route. |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
♫Bαby•Gιяl♫
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:00 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Uhh... no, you shouldn't be pissed. If you don't get him anything because you think he doesn't want anything, he'll just do the same to you. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
pogiguy05
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:00 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Why are you basing material things on and in your relationship?? |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
joe_fleeman
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:01 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| This is who he is, either accept him for who he is or find someone else, he aint changing for you hon, and if you think he should beg and grovel to be your slave because you gave him sex9I dont KNOW that you think that, but some girls do) that never works on a guy,Unless he is manic depressive and fearful of rejection tot he point that he would become suicidal and/or homicidal and then they are insanely jealous. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Jessy
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:01 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| your selfish.. its a present.. i love what my bf of 3 years gives me even if its a popsicle stick.. grow up and appreciate what he gives you |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
ctelly22
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:02 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Talk to him about it. Maybe he doesn't feel like spending money, or maybe he doesn't feel you are worth it. Are you sure you are together, sounds like he doesn't see the relationship the same as you. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
FRiiKiiTONA
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:02 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| COMiiNG FROM A S3NTiiM3NTAL POiiNT OF Vii3W Y3S BUT COMiiNG FROM SOM3ON3 WHO iiS ALSO iiN A LONG-T3RM R3LATiiONSHiiP ii THiiNK YU SHOULDN'T CAR3 WHAT H3 DiiD OR DiiDN'T GiiV3 YU B3CAUS3 MAT3RiiAL THiiNGS SHOULDN'T MAK3 YU F33L DiiFF3R3NT TOWARD HiiM B3CAUS3 THAT'S NOT WHAT CHRiiSTMAS OR R3LATiiONSHiiPS AR3 ABOUT. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
HandyMan
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:03 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Material girl. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Elizabeth H
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:09 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| I would talk to him about it |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Azizah
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:30 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Whoa! the other answerers are brutal. Here's my advice and I'll be honest and I won't prejudge anything about your relationship besides what you've said yourself. You've been with him for a year and he gets cheap gifts? He may just be cheap.He may be the type of guy that takes advantage of the 'emotional connection' line to guilt trip you into accepting that he doesn't buy his girlfriend of one year a xmas present. That would make him cheap and manipulative. Popsicle sticks don't cut it, its a relationship not a school project. You've dedicated a year to this man, you've been a good girlfriend and you want and have a right to expect the normal exchange of presents that show simply that he gives thought to your likes and appreciates you enough to think of you even when you're not there. You're not asking him for expensive stuff you're just asking that he acknowledge your birthday or -if he can possibly take out the time from his schedule to include his dedicated gf in his holiday shopping- get you a Christmas present. A teddy bear doesn't cut it, it would be the perfect gift if you'd told him you collect stuffed animals. He needs to show he is considerate enough to get you something that shows that he knows you, really knows your likes and dislikes, knows what would light up your eyes or brighten your smile and make you feel appreciated and that's what gifts are about, it isn't about materialism -unless your requiring that he get you expensive gifts- since you're willing to do him the same courtesy by getting him gifts in return. I'd wish you a happy holiday but it sounds like you're dating Scrooge. Don't let anyone convince you its okay for your long term boyfriend to get you nothing on your birthday or Christmas. Talk to him about how you feel. Tell him you love him and you don't need expensive gifts but you just want to have a normal birthday and a normal Christmas, you know, the kind with gifts under the tree? plusnote* if you accept this selfishness for yourself then what will you tell your kids when Daddy isn't willing to get them birthday presents or Christmas gifts?Goodluck dear, hope it helps. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
Source:  Powered by Yahoo! Answers
|
FAQ
Register
Log in
