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kmurph
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 Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 11:36 am Post subject: Am I wrong to be upset? |
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| So i do not live with my mom, and every year on xmas she comes to our old house and we all open up presents (my dad, me, my bro, and my mom) even when she lived in las vegas..and i live in san francisco. Now she lives in new york and does not want to come out and see us..cuz she feels it is to big of hassle..so instead on xmas my brother and i are flying to see her. And now we are opening all our presents the day after christmas in new york. That was a little annoying because i feel bad leaving my dad but nontheless fine until i found out that we are opening all our xmas gifts at her new boyfriends house (she has had boyfriends before..one whom i considered to be a second father..so her having a bf is not an issue)..whom ive only met once.. Does that seem a little weird ? Im fairly upset about the whole situation and i cannot tell my dad because he would be heart broken....am i over reacting? |
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spamdex
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 11:42 am Post subject: |
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| I think you're right to be upset. I would absolutely be upset, too. Breaking a tradition so you can go be with a stranger totally sucks. I'm just not sure that there's any time left to do anything about it. In your shoes, if I could, I'd cancel the plans and stay home with my dad. It's not like your mother will be alone. |
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Michael8
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 11:44 am Post subject: |
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| I think she should have had him over to her house, at least until you all really get to know each other. I would feel uncomfortable too, just try and make the best of it. When are you going to tell your dad, because he may be more hurt if you keep it from him and he hears about it later. And, maybe he will have some good advice for you. You seem to be closer to him. Let him know how you feel. Plus, I would tell your mom. That you wish you all could stay at her house, because you really don't know this man, and Christmas is about family, and he may not be around that long. Sounds like she has lots of boyfriends. |
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jasper addleton
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 11:50 am Post subject: |
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| First, you're not wrong to be upset. It's undertandable.Yes, it could be better. But you know, your mom makes her own choices in life including her new friends and her plans with them. It seems to me it would be nice for her to have a special time with you alone, but if she chooses not to do this with you, there's nothing you can do except be mature and accept the situation. Don't make waves, it wouldn't have any good benefit.I don't really see any reason not to tell your dad. You would want him to tell the truth to you, wouldn't you? He's a grown man and knows how deal with the things in life that are not positive. Seems to me you have an obligation to tell him things that may concern him.Maybe when you get back, you can offer to do something special for or with your dad. Save your money and take him out to dinner, write him a note telling you how much you appreciate the things he does and the sacrifices he makes for you.Good luck! |
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aunt_webby
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 12:31 pm Post subject: |
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| yes you are ovber reacting. its about time she had a life and its only fair that you all take turns to go see her ........she has been coming around to your place so why not hers this time or even her bfs ? its not nice being alone on Xmas.....be a sport. go visit her ? |
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