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Love being a Mom
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 Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 5:29 pm Post subject: How do you make your husband see through the act his son is putting on for show? |
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| My husband is ill & as a result, he is thinning out personal items. I am not thrilled that he is getting rid of things that I can use but so far, keeping my mouth shut. But low & behold, one of his boys came to see him (because I called and told him his dad was very ill and he should come see him). So now, my husband is back to believing this son is gold. His son doesn't care about him. When he is here all he talks about his is father-in-law and how he needs to buy him this and that and what they bought him for Christmas (he never got his dad a gift or sent a Christmas card). I know my husband loves his son but I am tired of the act. When my husband is in the hospital, this son does not call, come visit, nothing. He does not even call. This kid is 27 & married but drives past our home each day. When he stops it is because I called & said he needs to stop or else he wants something. Even tools that I could use around the house are being given to this son. Why is he blind to how he acts?BTW - this is the same son that stood in my face and told me if anything ever happened to his dad that he got everything - including anything that was bought after we were married because he was his dad's favorite. Plus he informed me that his dad promised he would never let a woman have the home we live in (it is my husband's before we married) but I have paid the expenses on the home (mortgage, taxes, insurance, upkeep) most of the time we were married because my husband did not work a steady job. But this son makes comments to me behind my husband's back but when he is confronted he denies everything - my husband doesn't really believe him but on the other hand, he won't come out and say he is lying about this either. I'm concerned because my husband is refusing to make a will but making promises to his brat of a son - his son also has his own home as well. |
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Colleen C
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 5:32 pm Post subject: |
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| He chooses to be. |
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Lisa E
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 5:34 pm Post subject: |
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| He probably sees more than you know, but if he thinks he's not long for this world...and he really WANTS a good relationship with his son, he may just be happy the kid is there at all. If it makes him happy that his son is there, and he chooses not to tell him what he really thinks...it's because he doesn't want to pass away having not spent any time with him. When the boy comes by, your husband isn't going to be critical for fear that he won't come back. He just wants to hold on to the time they DO have, for whatever it's worth.Your husband needs to make a will. He can do it without anyone even knowing he's done it...but he needs to do that, otherwise you're all going to be at each other's throats and it will get expensive with legal fees. I can tell you though...I've NEVER heard of a court giving the house to a child, over the deceased person's spouse. |
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lisalisa
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| Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 6:20 pm Post subject: |
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| First of all your husband is sick and why are you so worried about material things this is the man you loved?This is his son no matter what. My daughter is selfish comes around when she wants something but with age she will realize her mistakes.That is what kids do.I love my grandma more then anything but I have kids and work I dont have time to visit her either.You don't know what the father did in his past maybe he was not there all the time for his son.This is learned behaivor.Anyway who cares about a damn toolYour husband will be gone soon even if he son is a looser don't make him feel like crap he is already sick.Ask god to soften your heart weather it is wrong or wright make his time left on earth more happy.Good luck!Sorry for the mean words but I have to make you understand before you have regrets. |
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