How do I get my mother to change her Christmas "script"?
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Marina
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 Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 11:19 am Post subject: |
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| You won't get her to accept it. You can only get her to adapt to it against her will (which is okay). Inevitably, she will have to deal with changes in her routine whether she likes it or not, because life doesn't stay the same. It sounds like she has a compulsion about Xmas traditions and everyone caters to it. They will thank you for breaking it up and maybe others will follow suit. |
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Invisigoth
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 11:20 am Post subject: |
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| The way you get to change your mother's script is to not follow it and to not let her emotionally blackmail you into conforming.This is a test to see if you are a grown up and ready to make grown up choices. You are no longer your mother's little boy who is seeking her approval. You are now a grown up man with a life of his own.inform her that things will change because you now have a fiancee and have to split the holidays so she gets to see her family as well. Things will change when you are married and when you have children, you will probably stay in your own home to have Christmas morning there. |
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madmike
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 11:23 am Post subject: |
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| You enjoy a vey good traditional Christmas with your family and if you girlfriendwishes to join you, all the better. Just remember; the girl goes to the boy. It would not be wise to let her pull you from your family. Did you ever think of inviting her parents? |
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WaronTerror
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 11:26 am Post subject: |
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Explanations don't work; just do it and after a while she will get used to it and still complain about how you mess things up. that's family. |
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